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Pulling the Plug on Communication with BM

mndblwn's picture

DH and I have made the decision to have no communication with BM except for medical issues, important functions for skid and exchange plans. She is so unbelievable about everything and she uses anything topic to insult us or lie/manipulate situations.
Last night skid asked her about going to a birthday party during her time. we heard skid tell her that DH and I could bring him to her saturday to help allow him to go and then she wouldn't have to drive to get him. Sadly skid changed the way he said it to her and said that we could bring him back from her town on saturday. BM emailed DH and said we will not take him and stop using him to relay info that it's not fair to him.
EXCUSE me BM that isn't what the conversation was. WAKE UP to the fact that you child is growing up and has his own conversations with you. SKID asked himself to go to the party and knew that DH and I were going to her town so he mentioned it but sadly switched it around.
DH is upset because he has good intentions for his son and BM is just a bitch. A normal loving parent would say "ok instead of getting you thursday night Ill pick you up Friday night or Yeah they can bring you. have fun at the party." Two weeks ago she told us not to take his free agency away and it's his choice to get baptized. Ok BM well it's is choice to go to the party but because it doesn't fit your schedule his free agency and decision means shit. Just like how skid wants his hair to stay long but because we are ok with that YOU have to chop it off.

So we are done trying. Skid will miss out on things here in town where he lives with all his friends because every time we try, we always get shit on Darned if we do darned if we don't. It's really sad that BM lives a double standard life and then tries to belittle us.

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dragonfly5's picture

How did you do that? When My FDH took her to court last year in violation of the CO
agreement. He asked the judge for that exact same thing. The judge said they were to busy in the family court system to invoke such a request.

We live in Florida.

My FDH only communicates via text right now, it has made things much better. But when she is angry she psycho text him, on and on and on.

hereiam's picture

My husband had to do the exact same thing with BM years ago. Total bitch.

It is too bad, it is much better for the children if the parents can actually co-parent.

Now that SD is 21, we talk to BM never. Once child support was done at 18, my husband told her to never call again. So much for the "we're bonded forever" crap.