Just more stuff.
SD9 has said things the past few times that she's been over here that lead DH and I to believe that BM is cheating on her DH. Once a cheater, always a cheater, right? Well, SD9 started crying last night, saying that she missed BM. SD said that BM doesn't get home from her orthodontic assistant job sometimes until 9p or 10p (even though the office closes at 5p). She said that BM is very distant and is always on the phone because she's "on call". Now, I know that orthodontist's offices don't stay open until 9:00 at night. Honestly, it wouldn't suprise me if she WAS cheating on her DH. I hope for the sake of skids that she's not, but whatever. DH has told me that if he finds out BM is cheating, he's going to pursue primary custody. Oy.
On another note -- I posted last week about SD9 being "saved" at MIL's fire and brimstone church. SD9 and I had an interesting conversation last night.
SD: Are you coming to revival next week?
Me: No.
SD: Why? You're not going to see me get baptized?
Me: Huh? This is the first I've heard of you getting baptized. Have you talked to your dad about it?
SD: No.
Me: Your mom?
SD: No.
Me: Don't you think that you need to do that?
SD: Well, Nana set it up ..
So, MIL was going to get SD baptized and not tell anyone? Not to mention that that isn't a choice that MIL should make. I would be insanely pissed if MIL was to get my child (actually, skids too) baptized without my knowledge. That is a family affair. SD's family should be given the opportunity to be there when that happens.
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Ya I would be po'ed about
Ya I would be po'ed about that not only is it a family occasion but that should be decided by BM and your DH. A childs relgion until they are of age should be disscussed between the parents, thats a big boundry issue. I'm catholic and I attend Catholic church so does my daughter, DH is Luthern but doesn't attend services, I don't take SS with me because it would be innapropriate without disscussing it with BM who is Babtist. Relgion is an important and polorizing issue you can be whatever you want to be I don't care but you shouldn't put it on someone elses child without disscussing it.
I would talk to your DH and see how he feels, then I would tell him to contact BM to discuss it and see if they are both comfortable with this if not they need to sit down with SD and explain there feelings and tell her that religion can be a good thing but she should wait till she is older to decide and not be pressured by anyone else to conform to there beliefs even if that person is a grandmother.
SD9 is one of those kids that
SD9 is one of those kids that will say WHATEVER someone wants to hear to stay in their "good graces". A week before SD was "saved", she told me that she didn't like MIL's church because it wasn't "kid friendly". Believe me, it's not. I'm sure that they were screaming at her that she was going to go to hell, ect. for not being saved. However, SD told MIL that she wanted to become a member of the church. Once she gets baptized by those nuts-o "preachers", she will be. Someone needs to sit down with SD and explain to her that she DOES have a choice. I don't think it's my place, and I don't think DH will since he was raised in the same church (even though he doesn't actively attend).