DH told me that he gave SS18 his old expired Driver's license when he dropped SS off at college. Why. WHY? I said Really?? Why would you do that? DH said "Everyone has them". I said yes, but not from their parents. Like Seriously, if I have to explain this to you DH. Whatever. Also, the DL was cracked down the middle, and SS does not look like a 44 year old man. It's like he's actively trying to get him in trouble. Not my problem. I just keep repeating, SS is gone, SS is gone...

Yesterday we got a second message from Crazy demanding that DH buy bras for SD because hers no longer fit. Again...WHY would DH be the one buying bras for a teen girl, especially when she needs to try and find her size?? I was irritated that we were doing it because we were giving in to Crazy's demands, but also SD was walking around in bras that were visibly too small, and we knew Crazy would not buy any for her. But, SD goes shopping with friends and has her own money from working, so she could have easily just bought a new bra herself. But apparently logic is hard, and we didn't want her going to school looking ridiculous, so I measured her before we left and we figured out her size so she wasn't just grasping at straws to find her size in the store. We went in, she tried some on, bam, done. Ironically, I also was the one who bought her training bras, after having her ask Crazy to buy her some first, and SD telling me Crazy wouldn't buy them for her. So SD asked me to take her. Later, we received a message from Crazy saying "TrueNorth doesn't buy bras for SD, I am her mom, I buy the bras". Ha, OK!

Anyway, SD has her driving permit (only for about a month), so she asked if she could drive to the store. DH said yes, and for reasons I will never understand, he has been letting her back his truck out of the garage. So i'm in the backseat, she gets in, throws the truck into DRIVE instead of reverse, looks behind her like she's backing up, hits the gas, and drives forward, right over a bike she had left laying in the garage and straight into our 3rd garage door on the other side- denting DH's bumper, damaging the bike, and denting the garage door. DH and I are yelling, "STOP!! Put your foot on the brake!". So what does she do? Puts her foot on the GAS, giving it more gas and running it into the garage door more. DH said she looked like she was about to cry, but when I looked at her she looked completely unbothered. Not one peep of apology or exclamations of disbelief that she did that. Calm as a cucumber. DH puts the truck into park and tells her to slowly back it out of the garage. I said No- the truck is now crooked in the garage, aimed towards the workbench and all of the things along the wall- she is absolutely going to hit something, DH, you back it out. So he did. But he let her drive it to the city we were going to, on the highway, and it became glaringly clear she is not ready for that. It was terrifying. I made him switch with her before we got to the city so he was driving. He agreed this would not happen again for quite a while, she is so unsure of herself and would very easily have crashed on the highway. Even after we got to the store and DH had been driving for a while my heart was racing from being so terrified. He did ream her out for not taking driving seriously- she is just so blase about it all.    

At least she is being decent, we even went to dinner and for the first time in years it wasn't miserable. She wanted to share food with me, try what I was trying, and is practically a different person. I really believe SS being gone has been fantastic for both of us. I still have my guard up and am not doing for her like I used to, but I at least feel ok being pleasant again, as opposed to ignoring each other like what has been happening for the past month or so. 

Crazy sent DH a message saying she "might go visit SS in FL Labor day wknd and wants to take SD", but since it's our wknd asked if she could take SD. DH said that's fine. Last night SD came down complaining about her mom and said there is no way they are going to FL, her mom just says these things to make it look good, but then will say flights are too expensive, as a way to act like she tried but had no choice. This was exactly what DH said when he got the message from Crazy, so it was interesting that SD is onto her tactics as well. SD also said that Crazy and her bf are "toxic", break up every wknd, and SS and SD have both told her she needs to end it for good. SD said Crazy made SD start coming back to our house because "SD was ruining her relationship". Crazy couldn't sleep over at her BF's house when SD was there. Just a truly horrible person. DH was not impressed with SD telling us that, since she once again stated how she was "forced" to come back here, and that she wanted to stay with mother of the year, despite the emotional abuse and toxicity happening there.

We are going on vacay next month so per ROFR, DH sent Crazy a message with the days we will be gone and asked if she wanted SD, then sent the proposed days we would make up the time (He arranged it for a week I will be gone for work- woohoo! He even suggested it, he's like you won't even be here, let's just knock it out that week so you don't have to deal with it. I said, Well I'm not gonna argue... :P). Now remember, we are asking Crazy to take OUR days, but also making them up. She responds, "I had SD for 5 months (no), you should just take my days". UM....there are no freaking days of yours to take, you complete and absolute idiot! DH responded and said, I am going to ask you to read my message again and really think about this.... LOL. Literally the dumbest person I have ever encountered in my life. And we come full circle to DH's poor choices.