It’s been a long time since I have written. I am very sad because of something that I’ve just done. I thought it would bring me closure but it’s just made me heartbroken.  A little background. Last June, my stepson called my husband and said that he, his wife, and stepdaughter were coming up to visit us for a week at Christmas. They live outside of Dallas, we live outside of Savannah. My husband was so excited because he had not seen his son in a couple of years when we drove to their home for his stepdaughter‘s high school graduation. We also had visited his son, as we were taking a tour of the country, We swung back through Texas to visit them. They have never been to see us. They do, however, go visit his mother in Maryland quite often , We believe that the mother may pay for their way.  We had not heard anything from my stepson as to when they were coming up at Christmas. We had canceled all plans, including a cruise for my birthday in Switzerland Austria and Germany, so we could be with them  I called them on Thanksgiving Day only to find that they were all up in Maryland visiting my stepson‘s mother and his sister, with whom we have no contact. I asked, as I was on the speakerphone, when they were coming up so that I could make plans for Christmas.   His wife, whom I though I was close with, lied to me saying she was trying to change plane ticket dates. My stepson blurted out that she was lying and that they hadn’t bought any tickets and had no intention of coming up  I was so angry at this calculated blatant lie. It crushed my husband’s spirits, and his health has taken a downward turn because of this.  I had given my stepson‘s wife, an heirloom diamond ring, because she broke her engagement ring that he gave her. What he gave her was a cheap 1/4 carat diamond ring , I gave her the ring my husband gave me when we renewed our vows, which was worth over $8000!   I was so mad at her lie, I wrote to my stepson and told him to send the ring back to me.  When I gave him the ring, I told him if she ever treated his father, or me, with disrespect, the ring came back.  We then found at Thanksgiving, my stepson’s wife laughed and said they were never coming to visit us, as long as she was in charge.  I literally saw red We found out that the wife is very close with my husband’s ex.  This may explain why we never could get close to her, or the daughter.  I ended my relationship with my stepson and his wife and daughter.   My husband ended his relationship with the wife and daughter.  The son has known her feelings all along but never was honest enough, or adult enough, to discuss.