Valentines Day
So on Valentines Day I went out and got my wife and sd11 and sd9 all matching diamond ear rings. Later that night I gave them there gifts and caught hell. I was told by my wife that a real man doesnt wait till the day of to go out and get last min things. It pissed me off. Then the girls dad which says he is having a hard time making it on his pay check and hasnt paid child support ever gives the girls 150 each. I am not pissed about him doing for his girls but hell its no secret hes holdng back. My wife wont make him pay. She says he does enough by seeing them on the weekends. But i pay all the bills. It wouldnt be bad if they atleast acted like they like me. She said its none of my business if he pays or not. I think it is. Am I wrong?
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...your wife is entitled and
...your wife is entitled and quite bitchy. She got something yet is not happy about when you got it for her?
Tell her if it's none of your business whether he pays CS or not, then she should pay 3/4ths of the bills since there are 4 people in your household and the only one you're responsible for is yourself.
I would have walked. Sounds like a way high maintenance wife.
Holy Hell - $150 for
Holy Hell - $150 for Valentine's day to kids that young? Maybe dad is feeling guilty for not supporting the kids so he figures he can "buy" their love?
Even the diamond earrings don't make sense to me. A small box of chocolates or a teddy bear would've been perfect. Why did you see the need to buy them such expensive gifts?
I don't get your wife's comment about waiting until the last minute either. How did she know you hadn't purchased the gifts earlier anyway?
Is there no court order between your wife and her ex?
You're paying all the bills
You're paying all the bills and she has the balls to say dad not paying CS is none of your business????
WOW, a user can always find a victim.
You're not wrong. Your wife and her ex are both using you to support their kids.
I totally agree with
I totally agree with Disneyfan. You're paying for her kids and you're just supposed to keep doing it and not ask questions? No f'ing way.
You are being used. Clearly!
You are being used. Clearly! Stop paying for everything and take back the earrings. Ungrateful bitch...Sorry, but nice guys just seem to get used by some women. You are taking care of someone elses children and he gives them $150 on Valentine's Day. Hell no, pay your damn support so another man doesn't have to.
I have to ask if you are
I have to ask if you are getting anything positive out of this relationship. People usually don't stay in situations that don't reward them in some way.
only positive is my son.
only positive is my son.
I'm sorry that you are in
I'm sorry that you are in this situation. You sound like a kind and generous man who has come to the end of his rope. One point about CS, your wife needs to realize that it is not her money she is failing to collect, it is her DAUGHTERS' money that could be put to good use. But maybe if you separate, you will get the same deal from her, and if you have your son on weekends she will not expect CS.
Entitled people who use others don't usually change without drastic measures being taken. They just look for someone else to use. But if you are serious about ending your marriage, she may take it seriously and make some changes so things are more fair to you. SDs probably won't improve for years.
If you are married and paying
If you are married and paying the bills then yes, it is your buissness. I would begin to require her to pay the portion of the bills that CS would cover, see what she says then. I know, easier said than done. And for you to go out the day of and buy something is fine. My DH does it all the time! What's the big deal? And I am a planner, my shopping is done weeks in advance, his is the day of, always, except Christmas which is the day before! I don't get upset, he still never forgets. And it was so very sweet of you to get them matching earrings. Your wife sounds like my DH's ex. I'm sorry you couldn't get a thank you or some support from your wife!
We have been together for 3
We have been together for 3 years and he is 23000 behind in CS. Her and I have a 8 month old son together. As far as the earrings they were watching QVC or some channel like that and were talking they didnt have any real diamond ear rings. So i thought it would be nice for them to get some. I really want to walk. I told her this morning i will pay CS for my son and help her move. I just need my life back. I feel im a stranger in my own home. I try to correct them and my wife jumps my butt. I have had it. I will work 2 jobs if i have to,to take care of my boy. Its time for her ex to see how much i have taken off him the last 3 years and pony up for his kids when they are out of my life. The only positive i got out of it is my son.
Good for you Mike. Get the
Good for you Mike. Get the hell outta there. She's just using you. I'm sorry it has to come to that, but you sound like you're a smart guy and can handle things perfectly fine on your own.
9 and 11 yr old girls don't NEED diamond earrings - that was my point. I could see getting them some when they're older, say for their sweet 16, but not at those ages. Most likely, they'll be lost down a sink drain in a week.
Anyhow, that wasn't the point of my comment. You definitely will be showing her ex how much of the load you've taken off his shoulders if you leave. He'll not have the luxury of some other guy supporting his kids. You support yours, that's it.
Good luck honey. I wish you the best.
Since you have made up your
Since you have made up your mind then perhaps you may wanat to look into getting full custody or joint. You don't want your son to have to grow up with a house full of bitches. I feel for you, I really do. I hate for people to split up but from the little I know it sounds like you would be better off. I wish the best for you! Just be sure you get a good lawyer!