Honestly.. that sucks that he wants to take into account possible inheritance from others.  My DH's parents are trying to equalize in their mind.. what his brother gets because I am likely to get a decent inheritance from my parents.

The thing is.. what if I die before my father does and my brother gets everything.. what if my dad's advisors run off with everything? what if he leaves it all to the humane society?  what if I divorce my DH?  There is no guarantee I will come into that money.. and no guarantee that my DH will end up with it either.. 

Now.. sure.. my dad is 93.. I'm 58.. and I don't think we are headed to divorce court.. but it COULD happen.. and it is wrong for him to lose out and get less than his brother because his parents are trying to be "fair".. (and the brother's wife could come into some money herself.. but is in end stage liver disease.. so she will likely die before she ends up inheriting anything).

Your family may have current plans to leave something.. but the reality is that there is no guarantee it WILL happen.  Nothing like setting up resentment between your children by treating them markedly differently.

Now.. I might allow if your kids are set up at birth with some huge multi million dollar trust fund.. that maybe the extra 100K that he wants to leave his kid from his share.. well.. whatever.. but I don't think you are talking a sure thing in the extreme!

My husband inheritance from his parents is minimal, my dad's estate is quite large. Skids can't guilt hubby or my kids that we will have a larger inheritance because their mum hasn't worked in 3 decades, she is continually out for a sucker she and her family can freeload and benefit of.

i have a higher level and quality of education comapred to skids, but i was raised in a first world western country by educated parents. We are better financially because my parents saved, studied, worked hard, delayed having kids etc. 

there is no way my husband would feel compelled to gift or will skids more on the basis our 2 kids will be better off financially because of me and my parents estate

my brother in 2020 refused to deal with me regarding my late mother's estate, he stole money out of spite and refused to answer any communication from me which as an inheritor, by law he cannot refuse to answer to me, he must answer to me if he takes on the administrator role.

then his wife got involved and my brother sent a harassing and intimidating text which he also sent to my husbands work email which his personal assistant can read basically stating my husband is loaded and owns 3 homes and even bought a home for me.

firstly the 3 homes he bought before he met or married me. The home we lived in i was involved with interior design, finishes and furniture etc. 

the home hubby bought in australia was because we agreed to send our kids to school there as education level better and they would have better opportunities whilst hubby worked overseas on contract. My husband earns more because he has worked up the corporate ladder and stuck it out in his company for over 30yrs.
 

My brother on the other hand whinges about every boss and workplace and continually changing companies so doesn't have a strong resume. My husband is nearing retirment age which is 56 in his country but because his experience and skills/knowledge is not easily replaceable, his ceo extended his contract so he can work till age 58 when he will resign from public sector

hubby invested his bonus and pay into savings. My brother on the other hand is impulsive and along woth his wife spending money unnecessarily when they have a mortgage not even paid off and selling home to move to a new place with a stay at home housewife who refused to do housework, cooking etc. they bought prepped food which is expensive, back and forth holidays every 2-3 months.

it all adds up. My brother even claimed i was entitled to 0 cents from my dad or mothers estate because he is poor. Very soon (2025), we will be living off 1 income as hubby will be retired in his country and to migrate here visa takes quite some time so for 1/2-1 yr he won't be allowed to work. We have the buffer to cope with 1 income and when his partner visa is approved, he does intend to work. 
 

my brother and his wife on the other hand are younger, his wife is an electrical engineer yet claimed its so stressful she'd rather work customer service so instead of earning $100,000 plus, she's earning maybe $40,000-50,000 sp essentially intentionally under earning. 
 

they both can't use my husbands smart choices as an excuse to have more of my parents estate, its not legal and with my husband at end of his working career in public sector, courts won't mandate well he should work private and has same earning potential when he's uprooting his life to an overseas country etc. 

some peoples reasons for trying to equalise estate is just bonkers. Ss needs to understand nothing in life is equal or fair. If he gets a lesser estate, its because his mum and dad didn't work hard enough snd make the sacrifices others may have and the risks to make more money. Thats how my husband sees things snd he feels no guilt for it

Does he not consider SS has a Mother & Father to get his inheritance from. Why should SS be entitiled to your money? 

"that's just how he is."

What utter tripe. He's that way because your husband has never bothered parenting him. He's intolerable because your husband neglected his role as a parent.

So if you bought assets like a home prior to marriage, then you die, who are your inheritors as they inherit it.

So that situation would be your bio kids and your husband (equally if common law is followed), then when your husband passes, that property of yours forms part of his estate so his bio kids inherit meaning ss too.

You'd be relying on your husbands good will to recognise some of that wealth didn't originate from him and it would be upto him to pre empt things and gift or transfer those assets or sell it off and gift the money to your bio kid(s) which isn't always gonna happen.

so we have to pre empt and think worst case scenario. As much as the fantasy of hubby believing his kids from exwife wouldn't try to disinherit me and our kids from his estate and steal assets etc after his death,  he knows the facts. His eldest daughter is obsessed with hubby transferring a property he bought after divorce to her and her full siblings even though we had 2 kids together

also, eldest sd guilted and shamed her dad for marrying and having 2 kids with me 5.5 plus yrs after her parents divorce, bio mum having an affair and marrying affair guy. 
 

i told hubby whilst we have minor kids who were yet to start primary school and he had 2 adults and a late teen with ex wife, he should not be gifting assets without putting down assurances and guarantees that me and our kids were provided for in the event he were to die tomorrow

if exwife has had the luxury of not working and financially having to co provide for their 3 kids (it was solely hubby), it becomes hypocritical for hubby to say i'm on my own and not provided for financially with the same benefits as skids have experienced financially their whole loves they have benefitted more as they are much older. 
 

levelling the playing field means our kids need to be provided by hubbys estate so that their education and basic care and needs are taken care of right till finishing uni which is what skids get. To not follow through on that is a double standard and i made it clear to mu husband i would not stay married to him and that i would be better financially protected divorcing him because then legally he and his estate would be obligated to follow through on those basic necessities

lucky for me, hubby came to his senses and told his kids from exwife that their own mum abandoned them for affair hubby, even as minors and that i am the only positive female role model but they've chosen to sabotage any relationship and need to understand when daddy is gone, they're on their own because i will go my own way with our 2 kids. 
 

so they can be loners or choose to have an inclusive and mutually respectful relationship with us because we would be the closest fsmily to them and they're sabotaging it out of selfishness, stupidity and pettiness. Growing up in the world with no family and so lonely because of that is just stupid

only ss made changes but sd's i have had no contact since November 2018. We are not family and my kids don't recognise them as family. They know they have a brother who has same daddy as them but a different mummy who is mean and abandoned/disowned him as a kid

Make sure to ask what it takes for premarital assets to become marital assets. For instance, if the mortgage on a home owned before marriage is paid from marital funds, does any portion of that house become a marital asset?  And ask if there's a way to prevent it (such as signed waiver or postnup, paying solely from your pre- existing assets,  paying from your salary that's kept separate  etc). Your husband should really have no issue with the two of you preserving your premarital assets as separate property.  Unless, of course, he married you for your assets.