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Submitted by RoundIGo on Tue, 12/27/2022 - 12:25pm

I refused to go in the same circular arguments about why I shouldn't be feeling the way I do. Everyone in this situation hates me anyways, I am moving out. I feel relieved because steplife has been a living hell and I deserve happiness. I would rather live in my car at this point, then to subject myself to this mess... one I didn't create. I am not going in anger, or despair, but it is time. I am done. Thanks steptalk for all the support... would be blaming myself right now if it were not for this site.

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Submitted by RoundIGo on Tue, 12/27/2022 - 1:16pm

We both know that this isn't what it started out as and has morphed into something quite miserable. I feel I will be taking my life back. It really sucks it has taken 9 years but sometimes things just don't work.

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Submitted by Birchclimber on Tue, 12/27/2022 - 2:18pm

It takes a lot of strength and energy to realize that this is not working and it's time ot move on.  It takes really good judgement on your part, to know enough to get out of the situation now, rather than invest any more of your precious life being miserable.  Good for you, RoundIGo.  Life is too short to hang on to something that will not get better with time.    Please keep us posted. 

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Submitted by CajunMom on Tue, 12/27/2022 - 1:58pm

Nine years. Big investment. I love reading your clarity though. You will be fine....do fine. Best to you. Keep us posted.

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Submitted by CLove on Tue, 12/27/2022 - 2:32pm

I hope you stick around - 9 years will NOT go to waste. Thats 9 years of experience and knowledge (rather than just pain and misery) and you are part of what makes this site invaluable.

But if its not appropriate for you, thats also understandable.

Good luck and I do hope you keep us "looped" (rather than loopy lol)

Im so glad that you had the bravery to realize this wasnt going to work for you.

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Submitted by caninelover on Tue, 12/27/2022 - 2:34pm

Most people (except in the disturbed stepworld) just want to live a peaceful and content life.

Good choice to separate from dysfunction.  It is the start to a better life for you.

Best wishes to you!

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Submitted by RoundIGo on Tue, 12/27/2022 - 3:09pm

I must see this through. The part of me that cared about losing this battle to SD18 and BM, told DH yesterday that I am leaving him to his wonderful children and his amazing ex wife! And I meant it... it is not worth my sanity and I just realized as we were about to get into that same argument that I did not care to do this AT ALL. I have yet to cry because I just stopped caring, caring to give of myself anymore. I don't feel treasured or part of, and I will always take backseat and I finally got it!

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Tue, 12/27/2022 - 10:50pm

It's hard to make that move- good for you for doing what's right for you. Wishing you all the happiness! 

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Submitted by Harry on Wed, 12/28/2022 - 9:49am

He's cutting back because he's felling the affects of his marriage going around the drain.   This is only temporary until he fells in a better position.   He not changing, he did not stop,  Move out 

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 12/29/2022 - 11:13pm

Put this entire shallow and polluted gene pool behind you and enjoy your new life adventure.

Let them splash around in there failed family genetic cesspool.

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