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Submitted by CLove on Sat, 09/24/2022 - 12:50pm

So good news lovely people: I have remained disengaged and Husband is stepping up and on Monday will talk with school officials and/or teachers. Kid is going as well, and together they will resolve the issues (hopefully) and I did not ask anything.

Friday night he just mentioned in passing that she was morose because he had a talk with her about her grades, because I asked about SD16 Pouty McPouterson and her pouting and morose behavior when I said hello. And then...and then...and then...I started asking and STOPPED MYSELF. Physically told him "no no no I will not ask anything!!!!" And we had a quiet peaceful night. Period.

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Submitted by JRI on Sat, 09/24/2022 - 12:54pm

It's kind of like the dance of intimacy.  As you step back, he steps forward.

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Submitted by notarelative on Sat, 09/24/2022 - 2:01pm

my counselor is crazy and just signed me up for freshman history because he said I dont have enough credits

DH, if he actually listens to the counselor when he goes in, may be in for a surprise. "Don't have enough credits" is a huge red flag that something was wrong with her schedule.

Gird yourself to stay disengaged when he comes home.

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Mon, 09/26/2022 - 12:11pm

B/c I always had to support my family.  None of my husbands ever stepped up to do so.  I took college courses in HS and ended up with 21 credits including an "AP" diploma after three years of attendance.  I didn't care much for the HS atmosphere  (cliques and clans) and I was a mega nerd who didn't fit in so got out as fast as possible)  College was boring with the exception of Physics which was  intriguing.  Frying pan into the fire as I married young to the wrong person.... twice.

Retiring now from my main gig mid November after 45 years of straight full time work, no breaks, not even for childbirth... twice.

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Mon, 09/26/2022 - 2:29pm

Except OP's SD is in high school. One failed class and you don't have enough credits to move on to the next. And the kids don't necessarily pick their own classes. They may put in requests, but the school figures out the schedule (at least that is how they do it around here). If there are questions about what is being requested, the school contacts the student to fix it.

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Submitted by CLove on Mon, 09/26/2022 - 3:19pm

I see two failed, and one N/A. So hopefully no summer school but not my problemo. Unless she becomes a failure to launch like her sister.

I am staying out of it though...just going to empathise...

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Mon, 09/26/2022 - 4:31pm

Still not your problem if she is a failure to launch.

SD is never your problem. How your DH responds to SD might be, though.

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Submitted by caninelover on Sun, 09/25/2022 - 11:02am

Isn't it nice that their crazy doesn't ruin your day?  Nice job not getting sucked in!

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Submitted by CLove on Wed, 09/28/2022 - 2:45pm

Thanks again Rags.

Shes cut from the same cloth. But theres always hope.

Sunday I read a litte riot act about cleaning. PMP came out (of course). Schoolwise I am hoping and praying she graduates Junior year to move forward to senior year. 

Husband has put it on her to fix.