Hello all,

I hope everyone is hanging in there.  I haven't updated in a while so thought I'd do that and spend some time at StepTalk. 

I have been busy sneaking around and making arrangements but the move out plan is progressing nicely.  I have accepted a job close to my family and 5 hours away from here.  I have spoken to the landlord and we signed an affidavit that I will not be held responsible for damages after I move out.  I have a PO box now and all letters/bills are going to that PO box.  I had to sneak around to do it but I have a storage unit and have been slowly moving my most personal items out.  DH hasn't noticed.  To get the storage unit, I had to leave my cell phone at work and go on my lunch break as DH can track me on my phone.  I take things to work and give them to my friend and she drops it by my unit.  My attorney told me to call him as soon as I drive away from the house with all my things and he will file and have DH served.  I have movers lined up (3 guys), I just need to give them a move out date.  I spoke with the sheriff's office and all I have to do is call if things get heated and they will send someone to stay while I get moved.  The move will be quick as I have minimal things and 3 young healthy strong guys to move stuff.  I am currently looking for a rental home and as soon as I find one, I'll be putting the plan into action.  I am nervous as hell but excited and somewhat relieved this is going to happen.  I'll also delete the Life360 app from my phone and cancel my debit card on moving day so I can't be tracked and he can't continue to charge his and manchild's cell phone to my card.  My savings has been dispersed amongs my mom and two siblings, I also used some to pay down student loans and buy furniture which is still being held at the furniture store until I have a move out date.  I have streaming services and I will change passwords so they can't access.  All I'm waiting on is a rental and a move in date.

My current employer knows not to disclose any information to DH if he would call.  I will also file a restraining order after I file for divorce to keep him from contacting me.  I will be changing my phone number too.

DH has been nice alternating with rude moments, as usual.  SS has been especially toxic to me, avoiding eye contact, blatantly ignoring me, physically getting between me and DH in the kitchen if we are talking.  SS also has been getting up at MIDNIGHT to loudly cook a meal in the kitchen even though we eat supper at 630-7 and DH helps him rather than tell him to knock it off because I have to get up at 5 to work.  SS has cut back at his "job" if one can even call it that.  Not that he was working much but now he "works" maybe 4 hours every other weekend.  SS sits in his room, plays on his phone and computer, watches TV, occasionally goes to his mom's so she can be a disney parent and entertain him for the weekend - just absolutely worthless.  I don't care how he treats me.  I keep telling myself I'm going to have the last laugh on those two a&&holes.  Last week, SS told DH that I was kicking and throwing his cat (total lie).  I picked up the cat to keep it from my room because DH thought he had fleas and then I put my foot out to block the cat from running back in.  DH gets angry when I close my door to keep his cat out and I was trying to keep the cat out quietly - DH was no where around but I think SS saw what I was doing (DH refuses to vaccinate or treat his cat preventatively for anything, including fleas, which led to us having a huge flea infestation at one of our previous rentals - we actually had to move because DH refused an exterminator, at that time he treated his cat that one time and refuses to since). This cat is old and I'm not a complete b*itch, I would never kick or throw any animal for any reason.  But, DH believes his son and I was ostracized for 2 days while they got super chummy:  ate supper without offering me any (with food I paid for), ignored me entirely, glared at me,etc.  I was infuriated at first but then totally acted like I didn't care.  That caused DH to start kissing my ass but I don't care.  I'm so done here.  What kind of psychopath lies like that?  I mean, this was done with malice to get DH mad at me.  It was a lie.  An outright lie.  Is SS a future serial killer in the making??  I wonder.  But again, don't care don't care don't care.  In a short amount of time, they will no longer be my problem!!!!

Anyway, I have gotten such great support and advice on here and I am so very thankful for all of you!!!  I'm doing okay and will continue to update.  I am so thankful to have a group of people who understand and will listen.