(Formerly known as Step-girlfriend)

It's been a hot minute since I've been on here, probably because step-life has been so smooth and stress-free the past few years! 

Just kidding, it's still a sh*t show. 

I'm no longer a step-girlfriend, DH and I got married a year ago, and that has actually been fantastic. Can I change my user name? (Update: I did change it!) Where he used to get super-defensive about anything skid-related and take anything as an attack on them, he now listens to my input, and I can even VENT about skids sometimes and half the time he is so annoyed with them that he's venting too. More of a team with skids than before. And we have gotten really good at resolving conflict! 
 

Refresher, SS15 and SD12- we have 50/50 custody. BM is a real piece of work, she is known as Crazy. Most recently she: Kicked SS15 out of the house for a day. The next month she attempted to kick SD AND SS out of the house when she called a girl SS made out with a whore and repeatedly called her names and talked trash about her (she's never met her and has no idea), so both skids got mad and stood up for this girl, and SD ended up yelling "f*ck you" at Crazy (lol) who then said she'd "never been so disrespected on her life", and kicked both kids out, only allowing them to call DH's mom at 10:30pm to pick them up (DH's mom was sleeping, and Crazy's sister was literally at Crazy's house and offered to take skids with her, but Crazy said no- that would be like a "reward"). SS text DH saying they got kicked out and "it's time for a change of custody this time, this isn't a safe or reliable place to be", and when i tell you I almost threw up at the thought of having more custody... (don't get me wrong, They shouldn't have to deal with that, but I can still Panic). I immediately sent Crazy a message on OFW telling her to act like an adult and parent, but she cannot kick a 12 and 15yr old out- she got scared about losing custody and immediately called off the "kicking skids out" thing. Instead she sent them to their rooms for the night (gee, it's almost like she could have done that in the first place...) and then went into their rooms in the morning screaming for them to erase all pics and videos of me from their phones. Including our family reception pics (We got married in Mexico, skid-free, with a reception back home). This is a blatant violation of the "no trashing the BP or SM" clause in the CO. Gah, I just hate her. I do love DH for immediately setting the precedent and telling SS and Crazy that the skids will not be hopping back and forth between houses- meaning, if she's having issues, she can't just kick them out to our house. She needs to parent, and they can't just go to whichever house is easier. The first time she kicked SS out, he was swearing at her and then thought he could just come here- no, you can't act like that and run here. But it's a hard situation to navigate because she's also crazy. 
 

Anyway, there's lots more but that's it for now. Can't wait to see what everyone has been up to!