We had another good weekend with SS, another horrible weekend from SD. It’s all targeted at DH, he has been made into the enemy, he can’t even open his mouth without some sort of accusation or bad mouth comment flying back at him from SD. 

SS was great, again as long as he was not around SD. We tried to divide and conquer, and it does make it a lot better. BM has been trying to counteract the divide and conquer, she ordered SS to go with SD to sports practice on one of the nights (SS never has any interest in going, but they got off the phone with BM right before this and magically he wants to go! Gee, I wonder why). SD has been fine with me, she’s like a normal person when she’s not talking to DH. I’ve pointed it out to her but she goes into victim mode and then I disengage, I’m not a therapist and I’m tired of trying to fix things that just get unfixed as soon as the kids go back to BM.

I’ve seen a lot of posts about the upcoming *wonderful* Christmas holidays. I’m not really looking forward to it either.

The news was on in the morning as they were leaving for school and they announced that the borders were reopening. SD turns to me and says, “Yay! Now we can take a trip when we’re with you at Christmas!” I said, “Might be a bit late for that.” and left it at that.

So we have the skids the first half of school holidays this year. We have not booked anything because DH said to me that we will not plan to take the skids anywhere. They have been treating him like garbage most of this year, but they want him to spend thousands of dollars on them to go have fun and have these great trips? Big nope from DH. Never mind the alienation part, the one really nice vacation we took them on they really enjoyed, but then they told us a few weeks later (after going back to BM) how horrible it was compared to what they do with BM and it was stupid and a waste of time and we should have just given them the money instead! Nice, huh?

So with all that, DH said we will not plan to go anywhere for the 3 weeks we have them, we will just do things close to home (there are plenty of day trip type things to do) and play it by ear on how they are acting. I’ll be working part of that time, T can still go to daycare for most of it, so fine by me, you manage your kids.

The problem is he hasn’t told them that yet and I don’t think it’s my job to tell them. I also think it’s a bit ridiculous that they EXPECT to be taken away on trips, but that’s how BM roles. I don’t know where she gets the money but she constantly travels with the kids during the school breaks. I know they’ll be angry about it, and he’s probably avoiding more conflict with SD, but I think he needs to just lay it out for them. I guess he won’t be winning the Disney Dad award this year!

On another note, I am looking at booking a small trip for just us and T after they leave. They don’t need to know about it as far as I’m concerned, but I’m sure I’ll be ready to get the hell out of Dodge by the time they go back to BM!