BioHo sucking SD25 back into the fold

If you followed the my blogs about SS21's wedding week, you know a ton of drama ensued (BioHo) and that four of her offspring fled the 'Ho Bungalow for our rental. At that time, SD28 and hubby, SD25 and fiance, SS21 and wife, and SS18 were all on the outs with 'Ho due to her dramatic and drunken behavior.

SD25, not so much, as BioHo is deeply enmeshed with planning SD's upcoming wedding. Translation: 'Ho has take over and SD gave in to avoid more drama. A few months ago, DH and I took SD25 and fiance out to dinner. SD25 was bemoaning the fact that there was soooooooo much to do and she was overwhelmed. I offered to help in a limited capacity: IOW there was no way I was going to be involved in any major details as I didn't want 'Ho to blow a fuse over this Barren B!tch usurping her role. Anyhoo, SD - shortly after that dinner and before SS's wedding - mentioned to BioHo that I was going to help. That was all 'Ho needed to jump in and take over... and start turning SD25's wedding into what 'Ho wanted. Meaning SD25 feels like she has to 'play nice' with 'Ho so Mommie Dearest keeps on keepin' on and doesn't "turn the wedding into some sort of Monster of the Bride horror movie" (SD's words).

The bridal shower was the other weekend and I got stuck attending (thanks to my MIL). 'Ho was being sweet as saccharine. Yeah, I know. I had to pinch myself to make sure I wasn't dreaming and was mentally swishing mouthfuls of fluoride to prevent cavaties. 'Ho had to arrive early at MOH's house to decorate and set things up, so she was sober. At least she was until The Best Cocktail contest (and it'd be no surprise if she was nipping at a bottle of something in her oversized dump bag as she was in and out of the family room).

SD25 is what I will call The Weakest Link. IOW, she's the one who has always been most easily sucked back in by 'Ho. Again, I'm certain part of it is that she wants/needs 'Ho to keep helping with the wedding plans. Another part is that SD25 is - in DH's words and said in a not-at-all flattering tone - "you're just like your mother".

What's going on? Well, it was already known that SS21 would be unable to attend as he will be out of the country on military duty. Mrs SS21 was slated to be one of SD's bridesmaids. Until SD "uninvited" Mrs from bridesmaid duty due to her "falling out with my mother and I need to keep the peace". So Mrs SS21 "uninvited" herself from attending in any capacity. With gracious southern manners, of course. SS sent DH a screenshot of the text. That's right: SD did not even bother to call and speak to Mrs SS21; she "broke up" with her via text. Classy, SD25. Reeeeeeeally classy.

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I don't know whether to laugh at or cry for SD25

She is going to regret letting the 'Ho take over the wedding. She couldn't manage mother at SS21's wedding and if past is prologue 'Ho is going to be 1000% worse this time.

Poor Mrs SS21. She must be wondering about her husband's family but on the upside she gets to avoid the car crash wedding.

Aniki, I'll be thinking of you. *help*

TASM, I also believe SD25 is

TASM, I also believe SD25 is going to regret it. Especially since 'Ho gloated to DH that while she would be sitting in the back at SS21's wedding (before his wedding), she would be "front and center" at SD's. Do you think 1000% is an underestimate?

Mrs SS21 mostly knows whatever SS21 told her. I do know she was under the impression that 'Ho's vile behavior was somehow her fault (I told her it was certainly NOT the case). But she and I text, so she knows that we're not all bat crap crazy!

Thank you, hon. *give_rose*

D'you think that 'Ho

D'you think that 'Ho understands that she isn't the one who's supposed to say "I do"? Please tell me that she wasn't allowed to pick the texts for the ceremony... OMG, imagine her choice of music!

I'm betting she wears a white dress " so that everyone will know she's the MOB".

Winterglow, um.... NO. I

Winterglow, um.... NO. I think 'Ho sees this as an attempt to create the wedding she wished she'd had. I have no idea if 'Ho will be picking texts for the ceremony. ~shudder~

White would be no surprise. SD is not wearing white, so maybe 'Ho will feel entitled to wear it. Who wants to bribe a wedding crasher to spill purple-red wine on it? (JK, but it would be deserving...)

Picture it

Floor length, hip-hugging, navel-revealing, white dress, tiara (so everyone knows whose day it is and diamante flip-flops.... Mhh hmmm.

Nearly forgot...

A low-slung holster containing a 2 pt hip flask.

Oh, I DO like the way you

Oh, I DO like the way you think, Winterglow.

More like multiple-fat-roll-hugging, low-cut, pushing-b00bs-up-and-out, ankle length so 'Ho can show off two different colors of diamante flip flops...

And a tiara that holds a bottle of wine on each side of her head. *wacko*

I really like Mrs SS21

She seems to be able to hold her own and in a classy manner none the less!

SD25 is going to regret letting BM control so much of her wedding, but hey that is by her own choice. It is so sad to hear that BM getting really involved was brought on by you offering to help in a limited capacity.

I doubt there will be anyone taking BM away from the reception if she is about to cause a stir and I bet she makes at least one big scene on SD25's big day

Mrs SS21 is indeed a classy

Mrs SS21 is indeed a classy young woman. And that bit of steel obviously runs in her family (mother, uncle...).

SD25 already has regrets. Doubtful she has a clue how to take back any control with rousing the HO Beast.

Agreed. 'Ho's husband, Mr. Pinhead, is her beck-n-call boy and he backs up 'Ho's vile behavior. The groom is an only child born to an only child (deceased) and has few friends. While pleasant, he is NOT a strong-willed man. Like 'Ho and Mr. Pinhead, SD25 rules the roost and her fiance follows her wishes: quite the milquetoast.

And DH has already said he will do nothing to prevent 'Ho from making a scene, but will turn his back or walk away. Unless she comes after me. That's a whole 'nother animal.

All weddings can take a life

All weddings can take a life of their own but BioHo is adding so must drama and stress.She just can't help herself because it is all about her. Kind of sad. Aniki if or when this wedding drama gets to you think about how wonderful it is going to be when it is over.

Quite right, my dear Queen,

Quite right, my dear Queen, BioHo IS all about drama and stress!

I am sooooooooo glad SD28 and her hubby eloped. I told DH that SS18 should do the same when/if he marries! *lol*

HO TAKE OVER...omg sorry but

HO TAKE OVER...omg sorry but I busted out laughing.

I know you may be counting the days until it's over. That is sad isnt it. Should be a joyous time.

What is wrong with this BM's.

Thumper, would that be a

Thumper, would that be a HOstile Take Over?

How did you know I have a Countdown to Hell on my computer?!?!

Good for Mrs SS21. It's a

Good for Mrs SS21. It's a shame that SD25 feels the need to appease her mother, she may live to regret it.

she may live to regret it.

she may live to regret it.

I have a feeling those are prophetic words, Kes. No crystal ball needed to foretell that!

Jumping that sinking ship

I mean, erm, wedding.

Sad, but you know what? Shes 25, and has a mind of her own, and should be smart enough to figure it out, but hey, shes BM replicant. All you can do is dry the tears.

Gads, CLove, I hope your

Gads, CLove, I hope your words are not prophetic!

And it IS sad because SD25 knows what a nightmarish trainwreck she has for a mother. One can only hope SD is much less of one. Heaven help her future husband.

Aside from the personal issues....

Aside from the many personal issues, I am wondering about Ho's choices in colors, clothing, food, etc. From what you've said, her taste is questionable..... i hope SD25 isnt embarrassed. I guess its inevitable that she will be.

JRI, I think "questionable"

JRI, I think "questionable" is too kinda and agree that embarassment is inevitable. Seems that 'Ho thinks SD25's wedding dress is "prudey" and has been trying to talk her into getting it fixed to "show some t!ts". *dash1* Thankfully, SD luuuuuuuuuurrrvs her dress exactly as it is.

My friend of 15 years "broke

My friend of 15 years "broke up" with me via text message in 2014. I was in her wedding that was happening in a few months prior to the break the up. It was extremely petty what she did to me and one of our mutual friends was like WTF!

2 years later (2016) we were both in a friends wedding together. Said friend approached like nothing ever happened. During the bachelorette it was like old times. At one point it was just her and I.. I was waiting for an apology.. never got one.

After the wedding I saw her once after that... haven't seen her since. Our relationship never recovered mainly because I didn't want it too.

Very sad the whole situation but.. oh well.

SD25s and MrsSS21 will probably never recovery from this either IMO.

To me.. it's just one of those things that there is no to come back from.

Good for SS21s wife. At least she stood up for herself and didn't go along for the ride!

Edit: Had said friend called me instead of f'n text me... maybe things would have been different... I'll add it was because I was running late out of work and wasn't going to make it to a dress fitting... no joke.

MissK03, some friend, huh?

MissK03, some friend, huh? Sheesh!

There is certainly something to be said for communicating verbally. Like an adult! People who do cruddy things to you and never apologize are a special breed of asshat.

BIOHO

loves the drama. SD 25 likes to appease. That works for bioho

Mrs SS21 is one smart cookie. Didnt take her long to figure it out.

Gawd I hope after SD 25's wedding you get a break from bioho and functions.