GAL questions?
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The court has hired a GAL and he has asked a bunch of questions of me. He wanted to know my name, what my relationship was with SS (Non existant BTW), if we were engaged and what was our plan for the future, if SS knew about us and how. He also asked about BF's XG (The one BM ran off) and why they broke up, if SS met her and the dates and duration of the meeting. This sounds odd to me and concerning, as I am trying to stay out of this custody battle and I feel I keep getting dragged into it. Is this normal for a GAL to ask? #WTF
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I imagine the GAL would want
I imagine the GAL would want to know things pertaining to the welfare of the child. I agree it does sound a bit odd to be asking about the exGf and dates of meetings etc. although I can imagine they might want to have a general indication of whether SS had got on well with her. Personally, if a GAL was asking anything of me that I felt uncomfortable about answering, I would not answer - but that's just me, I'm bolshie that way - it's a perk of being an old harridan. Officialdom can sometimes be unwarrantedly intrusive, but I would just not answer anything I didn't want to, and damn the consequences.
I don't
know why either about the ex, unless BM already met him. She broke them up and told SS/BF that she didn't want SS at that "Bi%%#es" house. She has also made comments in the past to BF that XGF and I are both wh+res, when she was the one dating a married man while married to my BF....
Aahhh the typical lying cheating with a married man whilst
Married hcgubm who loves to tell everybody that her exhusbands wife is a whore. My husbands ex is the same.
when hubby told me after we were married what she had said when she found out he was dating me and called his eldest sister calling me a half naked white christian whore, i told hubby "i'll be your whore everynight babe, its why you'll never leave me!!" Its a little joke and chuckle we had of crazy bio mum. They're all the same!!
Is tit possible that the GAL
Is tit possible that the GAL suspects PAS and is looking for information that would confirm it?
Yes, this. If the GAL is
Yes, this. If the GAL is asking about your relationship as well as BF's other relationship, he may be trying to show a trend that every time BF moves on, BM loses her damn mind and alienates/withholds SS. Clearly, BM has a pattern and you aren't the first "skank" in her eyes to enter the picture. Basically, if BM can't have BF, no one can and maybe that is what the GAL is trying to demonstrate - that it has nothing to do with BM's "fears" of COVID, you being a nurse, you supposedly stealing drugs, etc.
This should
get real interesting, as his xgf broke up with him after an arguement with BM and she told him that she never wanted to deal with BM ever again...
Maybe..
I didn't think of that, but it is possible.
Especially if they knew about
Especially if they knew about the "no contact with skank" clause she wanted to add ...
Ha ha
Oh yeah that's right!!!
As much as you want to stay
As much as you want to stay out of the custody stuff,,,you are IN it especially if you are living inside the home.
First, I must presume a soft background check is being done on all persons who are 18 and older living inside the home with ss.
Next, the questions are not out of the norm. What is your relationship like with kid? Do you have a wedding date. Often times people (not you) fake it by calling bf/bg fiancee just because it sounds stable. Well, prove it.
Questions about your knowledge about x gf are important . What do you know about dad or mom for that matter.
Trust me, the GAL already knows the answers to questions that will make or break the case. A great GAL would have already run police reports, background checks on everyone, 911 calls to the home. Collected current medical on the child and school info, daycare workers questioned..stuff like that.
Lets say ex gf called the police for domestic 5 years ago..the gal wants to know IF YOU know or if you are covering up for bf.
I am sorry about this, I know it may be intrusive. You can ask the GAL...can you explain to me why you find it important to talk to me, and how can I help the most.
((HUGS))) hang in there.
I don't think background
I don't think background checks are done without consent. I was never asked for a background check.
Our GAL asked similar
Our GAL asked similar questions. Do you take medication? Are you in therapy? Do you drink? What are the relationships like? Etc.
A good GAL will see right through the BS... like ours did.
I would just be yourself. Your BM is crazy and all the stuff with your job I would tell the GAL.. IMO.
He came to both houses and interviewed the skids at his office. His report was very much for us and gave SO primary.. which we figured he was going to do anyways giving what the kids themselves wanted.
Good luck!
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