Threatened by SD
This happened a long time ago, but wanted to know if anyone's life has been threatened by a SS or SD? My DH's daughter, who was living with us at the time and was in a lot of trouble, said she wanted to kill me my smothering me with my pillow while I was sleeping. At that point, I took my young sons and we slept behind a locked door at night. A few months later, she moved out - thank goodness. And I put my foot down that she could never live with us again.
While it was years ago, I still am very uncomfortable being around her (hairs stand up on my neck). I have focused on protecting my sons by keeping her at arm's length as much as possible. Her behaviors have not changed. If this has happened to you, are you ever able to get past it?
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I would be hard pressed to
I would be hard pressed to get past something like that..unless it was clearly a very young child lashing out in an immature way..but if the spots are still the same.. I would avoid the leopard
How old was the little cherub
How old was the little cherub when this happened?
If she was 11 or older, she would have been dropped kicked out of my house immediately. I wouldn't have waited a few months.
If she didn't sincerely apologize and demonstrate real change, she'd never be allowed in my house again.
If DH didn't agree, he could go too, or I'd burn the house down. If anyone's going to be psycho in my house, it's gonna be me.
She was 16
She was 16 at the time and physically bigger than me (she could definitely accomplish the task!). She has never apologized, nor acknowledge any of the terror she brought.
There are some things you
There are some things you just don't get over. You might one day move past but it will always be there in your mind. If SD's actions haven't shown that she is growing up and becoming a better person, I would keep her at a distance and not feel an ounce of guilt.
Toxic is toxic- family or not.
Yeah, no, you don't get over
Yeah, no, you don't get over that. And TBH I would never trust her near me or my kids again. I have heard many news stories about Skids killing parents, you don't wanna be in the news. I would have told the police that she threatened your life. That is illegal.
No I could not get past it.
No I could not get past it. I had a sort of similar situation DH's Spawn threated on social media she wished the purge was real so she could kill me first. We took the threats to the local PD and they said there was nothing they could do, we contacted the social media outlet and their response was if we didn't like the comment then we should just block her. I haven't seen or spoken to her since (she was 16 1/2. Also no she will never be welcome in my home or around my underage child.
Gawd
Some people are just evil freaks. Its like a horror movie that stays with you. I would never let her darken my doorstep again.
Been there, done that
Madam, I have been threatened physically, verbally abused and blamed by my stepkids for their failings in life. When these incidents occurred, the stepkids were removed from our home. SD30 went to live with BM at 13 (after numerous raging fits and a couple of serious threats of violence) and we have reconnected in the last couple of years. The last raging fit occurred when she was SD23 and lately she seems to have gotten herself under control.
SS27 currently lives with BM, but doesn't work or go to school. We had a good relationship until he turned 24..then the blame game started and now I won't spend time with him. Not sure why that happened but it did. Both DH and I thought it was absolutely ridiculous that he was blaming me, for him not having a job and doing poorly in school. Like I had any control of those issues and he was some innocent victim.
Youngest SD25 has always been great but at this point in time, who knows how long that will last. Bottom line, it seems whenever the steps are having a rough time in their lives, they blame SM and DH for all their problems and in our case BM is fully onside with their behavior. All I know, at this point in my life, I am getting too old for this nonsense and DH knows that. I'm not sure I will ever fully trust any of the steps, but if they are prepared to act like decent human beings, I can spend time with them. In my case, depending on the stepkids, it took years to get there.