This is mostly just a vent because I'm feeling really down about this today. Up until maybe 9 months ago, my SDs (16 and 14) were completely obsessed with DD7. They would facetime her almost every day when they were with BM and would constantly text me pictures and videos to show to her. The adoration was mutual; she talked about them nonstop and they all just genuinely loved being together.

But since late last year, it seems very evident that they are extremely jealous of DD. I have some theories on what their 'reasoning' is, but what I cannot fathom is how they have somehow twisted that jealousy into treating her badly. I've noticed that when they are around, they take little passive agressive digs at her (which she usually doesn't catch on to), or they tease her until she gets upset, or they're just flat out rude to her. None of this ever used to happen. In fact there were times that we would have to intervene because they were being TOO nice to her and we were worried it was spoiling her.

At this point, neither of them have nade an attempt to see her or speak to her since mid-July. They're shunning their father too, but they have dropped in on him occasionally (mostly to ask him for money), but not once have they asked to see DD. She asks when they're going to come over every few days and I just don't know what to tell her. Part of me thinks that this is just a normal selfish teenager phase, but I also worry that it's an indication of the adults that they're going to grow up to be. I feel awful because I never wanted DD to feel like an only child, but lately she's been talking a lot about how she wishes she had siblings at home because she's lonely a lot (this is probably compounded by being out of school since March). I just feel so sad about the whole situation and don't really think there is a lot I can do to make it better.