Dreading the every other weekend still

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Hi its been 1.5 years and i still freaking hate , dispise , hate did i say hate lol every other weekend. I feel like im putting my life on hold for 2 kids that i really really dont like, I know its just everyother weekend but to me that alot. Thats 2 weekends of my life gone a month. Im 45 and was ready to relex and do things i want when i want as my son is 24 and i have done all of this before. Im tired, Im very close to calling it quits it just sucks as i do truly love him. I talk to people and they say .. hold on there they will get older ( there 7 and 14 boys ) hold on for how long 10 years ? i will be 55 then... i really didnt want kids in my life and im getting very depressed at this point.

I know you guys dont know me or us.. we really do have the perfect thing going , other then these 2 kids. I start stressing out a week before they come and the day i know there coming i actully cry on my way home . I am just preety misriable at this point of my life.

I can relate. Although I have

I can relate. Although I have my own 3 teens and and we have a 2 year old (I'm 40), I still dread the step kids coming.

it's been 4 years and the dread has gotten worse over time.

I am terrified that I'm going to wake up at 50 and realize I've wasted 10 good years of my life like this.

hugs!

HI thank you... yes i feel

HI thank you... yes i feel the same way .. the exact same way

How old are your step kids ?

17 and 12.... but act like 10

17 and 12.... but act like 10 and 5.

Still go about life like you

Still go about life like you normally would if SKs are there or not! Go out shopping, hang out with friends, take some time for self-care etc.

What does your SO say? Does he make his life revolve around them when it's "his" weekend? If so, I think that would be a good place to start. Just because the SKs come over, doesn't mean you lose your SO for two weekends a month. He needs to find a balance.

Only you know when you've

Only you know when you've reached your limit and the cost of EOW is not balanced out by what you get out of the relationship with your DH. I used to feel the same way you do - when I met DH the SDs were 5 and 7, and they came EOW for about 11 or so years. But it's just us now - DH still sees them but they rarely come to our house. But I remember how stressed out I used to get - how badly they behaved and how DH did not have my back. The memories are still painful.