Background: DH & BM have joint physical custody, but she controls legal (medical/educational/religious). CO states that swaps occur at school on fridays at school pick up time. DH took BM to court for the right to send him to after school on our time, he won with the judge stating that beyond actual school or medical appointments BM can't dictate where we send him on our time. She filed an emergency motion because she tried to schedule him for camps on our weeks and we refused, the judge denied it and reminded her that her legal doesn't trump the physical custody. We are in the process of moving back to the same county (15 min from everything).

When Covid-19 first shut school down, there was a lot of confusion about how swaps would work. Since we had recently moved out of the county we tried to compromise and alternate. BM refused, so we defaulted to the CO which stated the school as the location and normal school pick up time. We told her as much and showed up there for the normal time. 45 minutes later she was a no show, and wasn't  answering her phone. SK was getting anxious so we caved and drove him to her. This set a precedent we couldn't come back from.

Now that camps are open, we are operating off of the CO again. Since the camp we are sending him to is in the same county as his school (15 min from BM's house, and closer than the camp she sent him to), it can be assumed by a reasonable adult that the CO applies here with camp swapped for school. However, BM is not a reasonable adult and is refusing.

She is citing a reccomendation from the governor (when possible, the same adult covers pick up/drop off at camps) as her reasoning, stating that we need to pick him up and bring him to her place. This is an unrealistic idea and not requested or required by our camp (DH and I split pick up/drop off because we work full time). We offered a compromise on her weeks saying that we would meet her in the parking lot when camp gets out and she can walk him over to the car. She agreed to this, but is still trying to enforce that on our weeks we need to pick him up and bring him to her house. Her lack of compliance with the CO and her refusal to offer the same compromise proves that this is purely a power play.

DH and her had an email chain going and she ended it by stating, "I won't be communicating on this any further." He followed it up stating that its her responsibility and that we would be reacting accordingly if she refused.

We are going to make it abundantly clear with SK that his mother will be picking him up friday so that she can't twist it on us. We don't want to put him through the possible abandoment issues that may occur from no one showing to pick him up on friday so we are warning the camp that if she doesn't show to call her first, and if she doesn't answer or refuses to come get him then to call us. We will then pick him up and take him home with us and try to help him understand that we will not allow him to be abandoned. We plan to alert the police of her failure to pick him up and also the fact that she is not responding. If no one can get a hold of her we will have them do a wellness check.

If she tries to claim custodial interference or contempt of the court order we will be protected since we are not keeping him from her, we have already alerted her that if she does decide to do this and we pick him up then she can make alternate plans to pick him up from our home (40 minutes away instead of 15).