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Update, I swear I couldn't make this stuff up even if I tried.

Daisymazy2's picture

Last update, DH received a summons to go to court because SD was stealing money from BM AGAIN, skipping school, and fighting at school.  She was placed on probation until July when she is 18. and she had to get a job at a local fast food place and pay BM back the money.  She didn't get to keep any of the money. 

Since she has been out of school since March because of the virus, she has been hanging out with her new boyfriend. She was posting videos of the two of them on social media.  She would say something stupid to antagonise him and he would grab her by the throat, push her down on the bed and choke her. It seemed he was trying to play around with her by choking her. He wasn't choking her extremely hard but it did seemed to be too much.  She apparently LOVED this because she was  constantly antagonising him to do it again.  Keep in mind it wasn't but a few months ago she was claiming that a guy raped and choked her.  She has been having sex with the new boyfriend.  She told DH. She told DH last month that she was pregnant again.  I really think she is trying to get pregnant or she likes the attention that she gets by telling everyone that she is.  I have been praying that she doesn't get pregnant until she is mature enough to handle it.  

She has also been posting videos on social media with her new BFF.  They are both high and acting stupid.

SD is now on house arrest.  She posted a video on social media claiming that she is on house arrest for her own safety. I never laughed so hard in my life.  Yeah,  I am sure the police placed a bracelet on her leg for HER own safety against this girl.  It seems that one of her friends told everyone on social media  that the so called Rape didn't happen and that SD lied about it. She also called SD out on a lot of other crap.  SD got mad and  posted a video threatening the girl on social media and the cops were called.  SD was taken to a group home and then house arrest.  

DH got another summons for court in 2 weeks.  I am sure they will make a decision to verify if she needs to stay on house arrest or not.

SD says she has a full scholarship to school and will be staying in the dorms at a local college.  I can't imagine her getting a full scholarship.  Her grades are decent but not scholarship material.  Maybe they are giving out scholarships for kids who get  suspended more than 10 times during a school year.  I don't know.  DH is so happy and brags to everyone about her going to college.  I just keep my mouth shut.  I am 90% sure she will not go to college and 99% sure that if she does go, she will not last long.  She can't even make it 2 months in school without acting up, how is she going to make it in college. I tried to tell DH that college is a lot different than high school.  She will be kicked out and not allowed to go back.  She wants to major in English with a minor in Education now. She wants to be a school teacher.  She applied to one college and they didn't accept her.  She claimed in her video that she turned down the school not that the school didn't accept her.  I am not sure if she is lying or not about college.  I know she is lying about a full scholarship.  The school cost 45,000 for a year.  

BM didn't include college in the CO and it is too late for her to go back to court now to ask according to an attorney I called.  I wanted to be prepared if DH would need to pay.  

Dh is calling child support enforcement this week to see what he needs to do to stop child support once SD graduates from high school the end of this month.  I am still holding my breath because I am not so sure she is graduating yet.  

 

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Thumper's picture

There is a lot going on for you... Sad

IF bm claims poverty, there is a chance, if it is a in- state school that sd  MIGHT have be awarded tons of grants, free dorm too.

About dh filing for cs to end. Depending on the state, bm can request it to continue thru college. IF bm can wing it she will keep skid in school as long as possible.

. Some bm's think they are slick---and they start asking dh to pay for the free stuff the college is already giving to sd such as books. Example pleading to the court in  alloting an addition monthy 300 in cs FOR BOOKS when there was zero cost to kid.

You have to stay on top of everything bm asks for.

Gppd luck and check your states laws.

 

tog redux's picture

Ugh, it does appear that in Alabama, her state, the NCP has to pay support if the child is in college and not working, so I wouldn't expect it to stop right now, OP.

But I hope your DH will demand proof that she's attending college. The good news is that she won't make it long in college.

Daisymazy2's picture

Child support is paid until child graduates from high school or is 19 years old which ever one comes first.  We have moved from Alabama.  I just haven't updated my profile.  I didn't want BM or BM's daughter to find me. I am in VA. 

BM can't really claim poverty.  She has a really good job and makes a lot more than DH.  She even has a rental house.  She can afford to pay for college but she doesn't want to do so.  She has already tried to get DH to pay.  DH has already shut her down.

I have been trying to keep on top of everything to make sure we didn't get any SURPRISES.  

 

Lady.Tremaine's picture

I'd be surprised if the girl even gets into school. I was a C student with great ACT scores so I was accepted to a bunch of private schools so her rejection is fishy. 

Also isn't it weird that intact families don't have to pay for college but divorced dads do ? Lovely system.

tog redux's picture

Wait - everyone moved to Virginia, BM and SD too?

ETA: I ask because if the CO is in Alabama, he plays by Alabama's rules.

Daisymazy2's picture

We were in AL for a short period of time and moved back to VA.  BM has always been in VA.  So CO is in VA. Sorry, I didn't make that clear earlier. 

I just didn't update my profile because I didn't want BM or BM's daughter to find me here.  Of course, they may still be able to find me since SD does some off the wall crazy stuff.

Thumper's picture

Also isn't it weird that intact families don't have to pay for college but divorced dads do ? Lovely system.\-------------------------

Yes it is.

 

hereiam's picture

Personally, I believe that states should be sued over this very thing. Intact families are not legally responsible, whatsoever, for kids once they turn 18. Not to send to college and not to financially support. Neither should divorced parents. Not sure who came up with that bullshit. Some COD, obviously.

tog redux's picture

Not a COD - a GUBM.  New York apparently bowed to a very strong National Organization for Women lobby in writing their child support laws.

I actually don't mind the idea that kids need help after 18, I sure did. But it should go to the kid and the kid should be required to work and/or go to school - not just live with Mommy until he's 21 with no job so she can collect the money. And if they refuse to work or go to school, they should get no support from the other parent.

Harry's picture

All kids are going to graduate H.S.  As long as she is doing some of her at home school work.  Not blowing it all off.  There no finals 

Daisymazy2's picture

I am not sure if she is doing her school work.  She seems to be posting a lot of videos on social media.  Before the house arrest, she was at her boyfriends house or driving around with her BFF getting high.

Wicked stepmo.'s picture

If its anything like NY, because they have to account for those who have learning disabilities and those that dont have internet access, they are passing everyone this marketing period.

justmakingthebest's picture

Is your DH going to show up to court this time? I still can't believe he didn't go last time! He was lucky they didn't issue a bench warrant. I don't know if he will be that lucky more than once. 

As for the rest of her hot mess.... Just call DCSE and file the paperwork to stop it. You should be fine. There are ways in VA to get it extended for college but there has to be extenuating circumstances. 

What is your DH's plan for his relationship with this girl? Has he going to any sort of therapy? Personally, I would really be pushing for therapy together to make sure he doesn't slip into being an enabler once her mom finally kicks her out. She won't  be bringing in that CS paycheck anymore and there is going to come a point when that happens. 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Good grief! I'm so sorry, Daisy. Fingers crossed that CS ends ASAP. {{{hugs}}}

I cannot imagine this girl going to college, much less being a teacher. My first thought was "she'll be one of those teachers who seduces a student". ~shudder~