Skipping a kid weekend because they are ill.
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HI just wondering if its ok to skip a weekend ( We get them everyother weekend ) 7 & 14 year olds , because one or both kids are sick. They are sick very often, the last time the came over they were not but 3 weekends back to back they were. Is it ok fir him to skip a weekend when they are ill and leave them at home instead of spreading it from one home to another ? last time they came over they got us sooooo sick we both missed a week of work. Fever, cough ,sneezing ,headache all of it. I homsetly dont thing there is anything wrong with skipping if they are in fact sick.
In my opinion as a BM and a
In my opinion as a BM and a SM....the ONLY reason for the kids to skip is if they don't feel up to switching houses b/c they feel too sick to get out of bed. Otherwise, sick kids are part of parenting.
Trust me I get it...DH and I share a baby....it's not ideal for the 2 skids or my older 3 kids to be sick around the baby....but they certainly don't get turned away or sent away because that's just not how it works.
Thats what my boyfreind says,
Thats what my boyfreind says,, but having them sick just doesnt feel right. When you pick them up there pale and really sickly looking, they just walk in and plop on the couch and dont move for days.. just sitting there coughing, sneezing and infecting all people around. they just seem like they would be comfy with all there stuff and own room when not feeling well i know i would, i must say as well the 14 and 7 year old share a room at my place as i only have 2 bedroom ,, they have bunkbeds. At ther house they have there own rooms, just thought they would be more comfy and in turn will not get us sick.
I think it's a kindness to
I think it's a kindness to let the kids convalesce where they are. I think it's "community smart" to confine illnesses that can be spread to as few homes as possible. I also think it would work both ways in that if the kids fall ill on dad's time.. that he would keep them until they are better before going back to mom's... so he would have to take off work for that etc.. if it happened.
It might be nice if BM would allow a makeup weekend.. or an extra day here or there to make up for the sick time.
It would not have occurred to
It would not have occurred to my DH to not have SS over if he was sick. He could be just as comfortable and cared for at our house as at BM's, and he didn't see himself as "visiting" with SS, he was the parent, too.
And if people go to work every day, they are being exposed to all kinds of germs there - and at school. What's the difference?
You are very right.. i guess
You are very right.. i guess we were just hinking if they are that Ill,,, we only have the one washrrom, and a smaller townhouse with no where to run and hide lol
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Sory what does that mean ?
Sory what does that mean ?
I would let the kids decide
I would let the kids decide if it was more than just a mild cold.
If it’s a vomiting bug it’s kinder to everyone to let them stay put.
As told to my dh and I by a
As told to my dh and I by a doctor at a Major US Childrens hospital, each home has a flora that is only known to the persons who live inside that home full time.
Bringing germs into the home is not healthy for the persons inside the home. It upsets the flora.
For us this was a life and death situation. BM had a huge shit fit she could not send her sick kids up to our house over and over again. They were always sick. Poor little kids...
The Doctor I wrote about had to send out letters to BM...
Hey it doesnt matter to me what anyone decides to do. But I can tell you it is OK to say no at anytime to visitation. It doesnt matter what the reason may be.
I have colitis,, my immune
I have colitis,, my immune systwm is always screwed up, the slightest thing i catch. i have asked my boyfreind not to bring the kids over sick many many times.. as they are sick quite often. he told me its his weekend and thats that. he is now understanding he can skip a weekend when they are that sick and make up for it at another time. his weekend are not court ordered. But that being said, his ex doesnt really budge. if its our weekend its our weekend,, no excuses. Even when my grandma passed ( she was in baltimore ) and my mum came back after 3 months gone to care of her funeral and estate, she wouldnt budge weekends. We just wanted to see my mum with out the kids as it was a very hard time and she wouldnt budge. i dought she will for a cold, thats on him to stand up to her not my place. All i can do is ask nicley and get him to understand that when there ill we can see them next time .
The NCP can skip visitations
The NCP can skip visitations any time they want. That is really the one advantage that the NCP has. If they don't want to take a single, or any visitations at all, they don't have to and there is really nothing the CP can do about it beyond attempting to get CS modified for a significant reduction in the time the kids spend with the NCP.
But, if the CP refuses to turn the kid over to the NCP for visitation per the CO, it can be trouble for the CP.
Coronavirus cases triple
Coronavirus cases triple every day, especially around me. Don't accept sick kids, I don't accept them in my classroom anymore (I teach).
My wife is pregnant and I have a 1 year old, sicknesses aren't something to be glossed over right now. I'm going to stop coming to work when the cases get a little closer, as are most of the tenured teachers in my building.
i just told him im not
i just told him im not expecting sick kids right now, thats that.. the world will not end if they dont come over sick and spend the weekend on our couch .. but they will get me sick as they always do. both are in public school here and i just dont trust it. there sickly as it is and with this crazy crap going on i have to for once look out for me.