More late night SS antics!
So I'm asleep in bed quite peacefully, and I'm awakened all of a sudden by my SO's shouting voice. SO had gone downstairs for a 3 am snack or drink, and apparently, SS15 was found, on a school night, playing the Fortnite game in the living room secretly. There's no telling how long (days, weeks, months?) sneaky, disrespectful, lying, manipulative SS has been doing this.
If I could have grabbed a thing of :popcorn: I would because this was sheer entertainment. SO grilling the source of much of my misery.
"You take advantage of my kindness, you f*#@ing knew you had school tommorow! That's it! I'm taking away games on the weekend! Now go get your ass in the bed. Now!"
Sounds good right? But I know my SO. Make threats early in the week/previous weekend, "forget" about the threats and promises of punishment made by the next weekend. Get mad at me if I remind....
I won't be reminding. I'm taking friendly wagers on if SS will be playing the game this weekend. My wager is on, yes, he will. Rolleyes.
SO gets back in the room and starts complaining to me about SS15. I'm nestling into my pillow like:
"Mmph... You handled that great honey, now can you keep it down? I'm trying to get some sleep."
I could tell SO was nonplussed. In the past, in similar "the SC messed up so bad" scenarios, me and SO would talk at length about it, with me feeding into and adding. SO is clearly getting the point about me disengaging.
Since I used to handle all their educations, I still hold the keys to the kingdom of all the software that can keep track of their grades and what not. This morning, I did offhandedly mention to SO that their up to date grades are still abjectly terrible. We'll see what SO does with that. My guess is a lot of blustering with no payoff.
I'm not bothered. Y'all have a wonderful morning!
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Perfect!
Perfect!
What's his plan for launching this kid when he's done with high school? My SS did this very thing with BM's blessing and he's now 20, living with BM, and STILL playing video games all night, no work, no school, nothing.
YES, disengagement is one thing
But getting stuck with a 19 yo SS who now can play games 24/7 because he dropped out of school. And doesn't have a job is another thing. There has to be an exit plan. DH will go along with it now because exit time is four years away.
There has to be a plan where DH can not change it. As time gets near exit date.
My bet is he will hold strong
My bet is he will hold strong Saturday until the evening when all DH wants to do is relax, have a beer and watch some tv/movie and SS is up his a$$ about the stupid game. He will snap and yell and grumble "Fine, but if I catch you doing it again- you really will be grounded for a week!"
Too bad you don't have a
Too bad you don't have a vault with an unalterable timer on it. Games go in, timer is set, vault won't open until Friday, February 28 at 5pm...
When DH caves, set up the
When DH caves, set up the router to cut the bandwidth drastically every 10 minutes throughout the weekend. Then sit back and enjoy the chaos. lol
I would guarantee by saturday
I would guarantee by saturday there would be some integral part of that gaming system that would be missing and make it non-functional.
I would also be practicing my "doe eyed denials" of where it was.. "where did you see it last?? Hmmm.. I don't know.. I don't play that thing".
Shortly after Death of the
Shortly after Death of the Disney Dad, the skids lost the TV remote multiple times for leaving it on the living room floor. DH kept finding it with his foot.
I may or may not have stepped on it reeeeeeeally hard prior to him finding it the last time... DH never did buy another remote. *diablo*
hahahahaha... I'm not
hahahahaha... I'm not normally one to be super passive aggressive with people.. but sometimes there is an opportunity to make a point without having to outright SAY it for the millionth time.
When little whiny mcwhinerson started on about his game not working on saturday.. I might chime in with a "well.. DH.. maybe it will turn up.. it's not the end of the world today.. since you had told SS he wasn't able to play anyway.. I will certainly keep an eye out for the game cord (or whatever).."
Neither am I, but I was tired
Neither am I, but I was tired of the round robin of DH beeyotching about it, skids losing remote privilieges, repeat repeat, repeat...
What works well:
leave everything as-is except remove all the hand units
take the power cord
reset the login and password
turn on extreme parental controls
The first two are my favorites
It's sad how ineffective your
It's sad how ineffective your DH is. The games could be used as an incentive for the skids if he would do it. Something my ex and i used to actually agree on was if my son kept a 3.0 (this was a good goal for him because school didn't come easy), he could play his games. If not, cut off at both houses until next progress report. It worked.
They could, but that would be
(gasp) parenting!
Parenting is punishing both the kid and the parent by making both feel bad. Why would you want anyone to feel bad? It's all about making sure you feel good.
I know! Seems like it's often
I know! Seems like it's often ok for the step to feel bad, though!
Also to add i don't mean to
Also to add i don't mean to sound flippant or like parenting was/is easy. But stepparenting is so much harder. You have no control but partners expect you to be maternal and to help, but without the possibility of getting the reward of knowing your work is paying off. Because you are undermined at every turn. Kudos to you for disengaging. Idk if you have bios, but if you don't, this step crap is so much different and worse in most cases.
Bravo
Well played.