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SD15 caused my divorce

Stunned Step of 3's picture

Submitted by Stunned Step of 3 on Thu, 12/13/2018 - 11:14pm

SD15 caused my divorce.He filed today.... You heard it! So be careful, be nice to them or if your man is a devoted father you can loose him to his moody manipulative little bitch. 

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VNichol's picture

Submitted by VNichol on Fri, 12/14/2018 - 12:33am

Dangggg,im sorry you have to go though a divorce due to his daughter. Maybe its a blessing in disguise. I'm here to listen if you need to vent!

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Submitted by elkclan on Fri, 12/14/2018 - 4:28am

I'm not doubting for a second that your SD with her personality disorders has caused a major disruption to your marriage. But she didn't go to the lawyers and she didn't file with the court. It might be easier to blame her than to blame the fact that it sounds like you chose to marry a man with a personality disorder and life with them is always going to be an emotional roller coaster without any safety checks. 

I'm not blaming you. I did it, too. It was hell. But you do need to take some time and recognise your part in this. What in you made you think it was ok to be treated like that by an intimate partner? What emotional needs did he satisfy? I haven't resolved all my issues yet, but I found that doing some work in that area helped me choose a much better partner this time around. And someone who had experienced a BPD spouse. 

dysfunctionally_blended's picture

Submitted by dysfunctionally... on Fri, 12/14/2018 - 7:29am

Very sorry. I understand your anger and the blame. Your SD may have caused the issues pertaining to your relationship fail but she didn't cause the divorce. 

Your DH failed you and your relationship. Please understand you deserve a better man. One that puts your marriage first, above all else! 

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Submitted by StepUltimate on Fri, 12/14/2018 - 8:17am

Oh this is sad, I am so sorry... but also seriously relieved for you to be DONE with that toxic sitution. 

I hope you will please stay safe, take good care of yourself, and take action toward the next, FREE FROM STEP-DRAMA phase of your life. Sometimes it gets worse before it gets better, and look at it this way: now that you've reached WORST, you're on the path to a much brighter day.

(((Hugs))

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Submitted by CLove on Fri, 12/14/2018 - 1:38pm

Marriage is hard. Some folks just arent cut out for it - meaning your STBXH.

You will be strong through this. I would like to read more of your story, if you are able. I think it might help. Your X just left you while you were at the store. Packed and left, while pretending that everything was ok. There might be another woman (other than SD15) involved. To pretend like that and then just up and leave without discussion is heartless!

Take care of YOU.