ive been married to my husband for almost 3 years, together 4.5. He has 3 kids, by 2 separate moms. 1 is a complete nut case, the other one is just as useless. All the kids live with their moms..the 11 year olds mom is now a lesbian and has a wife. They have always been nice to me, and we seem to get along good. A few months ago her mom called my husband and asked if the 11 year old could come and live with us. My husband and I discussed it and decided it was ok. We were literally in the middle of moving into our new place, and I had hesitation because we weren’t even unpacked yet. The mom lives approx 18 hours away from us and was getting impatient with the 11 year old. We could not travel that week (because we both work) so I had her mom take her to my adult sons house. My son is military and is married. My son then met me halfway with my husbands daughter in tow. I had not seen this child for a year or so because we live in different locations. I was in complete shock when I saw her. She was double if not more, in size than the last time I saw her. I am not dogging her weight, but she is clearly obese now. Her clothes were so large she was dragging them as she walked. Her hair was just a grease flop. And her teeth had not been brushed in god knows how long. My husband still had to work,  so I went to retrieve her by myself.   I immediately  called my husband and told him to prepare himself.  When she got in my car she had a white kitchen trash bag full of Nilla wafers cookies crackers gummy bears so much junk food all of it was junk food.  So at least I understood where the weight is coming from. I was Very confused because she did not look like that the last time we saw her. The whole time I’ve been saving bags of clothing hoping that they would fit her, because she literally came with nothing from her mom.  My husband and I do not make enough money to go on massive shopping spree‘s.  This kid only had Batman pants, and fuzzy Walmart pajama bottoms. She had sandals that were torn and fuzzy slippers.  We drive 10 hours home, And I’m talking to her to try to find out how she’s doing and stuff like that. She immediately tells me that her mommy said that her daddy is going to get her braces in five days no matter what. It was a very off-the-wall comment we weren’t even talking about teeth and I thought it was very bizarre. I informed her that she is not on her dad’s insurance,  And that she would have to wait until we could add her to her dad’s insurance.  But it was the tone that she used with me and I also thought was troubling.  So we get her to our house, my husband and I decide to go buy healthy food, lots of healthy food and that we together would plan her meals, that way we can get her into a healthy eating routine.  We make her breakfast in the morning, I come home every lunch and make her lunch, and we cook dinner every single night. We cook healthy food plenty of healthy food .  Her plate is is full as her fathers.  We soon discovered  has she had eaten an entire tub of sour cream, mayonnaise, and whipped cream, when we were not home.  When we asked her about it she tried to tell us that we bought it at the grocery store empty.  Of course I had to inform her that she is my sixth rodeo, not my first, she said she didn’t care .

So we have to have her in homeschooling due to immigration situation, so we have enrolled her in online schooling. She is supposed to be in sixth grade, but she cannot even do the work of a third grader. She refuses to do her homework,  she will not have a shower, she wants to sleep all day and eat. Now we have had to purchase locks for our refrigerator, we have had to take her tablet away from her because she was posting videos that were really Bizzarre on YouTube. Like she was talking to herself on video, taking video of herself with just a towel on and conditioner in her hair rubbing it in in front of the mirror, it’s really strange and I feel like something mental is going on.

 I feel like I have to lock everything in my bedroom to keep her out of it.  So my husband and I decided that she does have to go back to her moms because of the immigration situation. We called her mom last night and now the mother has moved even farther away, and she will not meet us halfway to pick up this child, and we cannot afford to drive her all the way there. I feel like I have been fighting with my husband every single day since she has been here, I feel unsafe and taken advantage of in my own home.  Feel like everything I own is a free-for-all .I never  know what she is going to steal, she glares at me when her dad is not looking. I feel guilty for not liking her but I actually hate her, I want her to get out of my house and I never want to see her again. I am really feeling guilty that I feel this way about her. I just do not want her there it is to many problems. I feel like her mother created these problems and therefore her mother should be the one that is stuck  dealing with them. I feel like I’m being used as a bank, and I’m really sick of giving up every single thing that I need to make sure that this child has everything she needs. I’m so frustrated, I even threatened my husband that I would leave the home until he  takes her back to her mom.  I know that this kid would’ve had a better life with us, but we were financially cannot do this. We cannot afford $10,000 for immigration fees etc.  on top of all of the heart ache that this child is causing.  Every single day she does nothing that is asked of her, she doesn’t have any chores to do, we literally ask her to do to pieces of paper for homework. Instead she lounge around all day no shower dirty teethCarla and watch his little baby cartoons.  She would eat the entire bag of potatoes if I did not lock them in the cupboard .  Not to mention eating spoonfuls of mayonnaise is disgusting.  But this kid is 11 years old and she weighs over 200 pounds.  I cannot afford to do this any longer,  i’m at the age where I just want peace in my life. My children are grown. I love my husband but I hate his daughter.