So, the last two weekends, SS13 has "chosen" not to come. No skin off my back, that kid is a giant sh*t. Except....Last weekend, FDH and I schedule engagement and family pictures. BM had asked FDH to pay for half of a picture sitting and he told her no, because we had already set this up. So, we offered to give BM copies of pics with just kids, blah blah blah...of course she got SS13 all riled up saying that FDH beats him and all kinds of other crap. So, he chose not to come. We took pictures anyway and it was a really good time. Would not have been with SS there. So, BM is asking all the girls (5, 8 and 11) "Isn't it mean that daddy and her took pictures without SS there?" I could HEAR her! SD5 was sitting on my LAP!
Anyway, there was a big halloween event in town this weekend and we offered to take all of the Skids this weekend to go to it. So, SS doesn't want to come (he's 13, its a kids thing, who cares) BM makes a huge deal about it and how we treat him so bad, blah blah blah. Well, turns out she dumped the kids at her parents for the weekend so she could go to a "funeral" out of town. Highly unlikely.
I was sick all week and am still not 100% tonight, so I planned on not driving with FDH to drop the kids off. Its a 2 hour drive, we usually have really nice conversation on the ride home, we both like the quiet time together. Anyway, BM texts him this afternoon and says "It would be really nice if you were alone when you dropped the girls off tonight." - SERIOUSLY???

Here is what we think:
BM is on drugs
She spends CS on drugs and not food for the kids
She is either a prostitute or is selling drugs

Here is what we know:
Her landlord called us and told us they were serving her with an eviction notice on Monday
THey suspect drugs
She owes them over $2000 in back rent
Her BOSS tried to cover her rent and his check bounced

Now, I am waiting to hear what the hell I couldn't be around for and pray that FDH stands his ground. (I have taught him well with regards to her!)