I don't post too much, usually it's "same sh!t, different day" at our house. But this is really bugging me.

BM got evicted and moved into a friends house. SDs 5 and 8 are sleeping on a couch and SD 11 is sleeping in BMs room. I would say sleeping with BM, but she likes to leave in the middle of the night.

SD 5 has missed 1/3 of the school year so far! On top of that, she have been getting boils on her private areas and the last one was a staph infection. BM DID NOT PICK UP THE ANTIBIOTICS!! SD5 had to wait an entire week to get them when we found out and picked them up!

We hired a private investigator.....We are looking for an attorney in that county....

School informed the County Attorney about the absences. All of the kids have 15 or more tardies. So, an investigator went to the school, spoke to all the kids, then went and spoke to BM. She is RAGING at us about this. WE sent the cops to school, WE sent the cops to the house. This is OUR fault. (yeah right)

SDs 5 and 8 have their Christmas programs at school tonight. SD11 has hers on Monday. Its a 2 hour drive there and back for me, but FDH can't go. He's an over the road truck driver and his partner driver is in the hospital. I was going to go video tape the programs so that FDH can watch it with all the Skids when we have them next. This has caused a couple of issues because the kids suddenly didn't want me to go. It turns out the BM told them that she would make sure I didn't walk out of the auditorium and they were all concerned for my safety. (Nice BM)

My attorney (my dad) told me not to go to the concerts because:

It will cause a problem for Skids. BM will put them in the middle and/or take her anger at me out on them.

I will be under fire during a custody hearing because I have no children, nor can I have my own biological children.

Me going without FDH could be misconstrued in a courtroom as ME being the one who wants the kids. Even though it has nothing to do with the fact that they are NOT BEING TAKEN CARE OF!!!!

I am really struggling with this. I feel like I am letting FDH down (he says he understands) and I feel like I am letting the SDs down. That's the last thing I want to do! I am not going tonight or on Monday. Dad rarely steps in and tells me straight up not to do something. But I feel awful!