So after this weekend's bratty behavior by soon to be SD10 at my fiance's nephew's wedding, tonight we had a discussion about our holiday plans for this year. We have SD10 this year for Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve, both of which are a big deal in my family. Last year, we had her for Christmas Day. My then SO brought her to my parents' house where she received a massive pile of gifts totaling over $1000 in value all themed around remodeling her bedroom (which hadn't been updated since she was an infant). She summarily snubbed her nose up at them and then stood up in front of my entire family and sang a little song she had improvised entitled "I Hate You All for Christmas." Needless to say, it was a disastrophy!

So after our discussion this evening, my now fiancé informed me that she would not be attending any of my family's holiday events this year. Consequently, neither will he. :(. Should I be jumping for joy that the little brat won't embarrass me in front of my entire extended family, or sad that because of her unchecked behavioral problems, my future husband and I will not be spending our holidays together?

I hate to admit (bc I'm usually good at disengaging) that this situation has me resenting her punk ass that we can't even expect good behavior on days where she will be showered with gifts and attention. Should I just get used to only having my husband every other year for family holiday events? He told me tonight that he expects she will be more mature at 12 (the next year we have T-giving & Christmas Eve w her) but I actually think she will be WORSE by then. And what happens when we have a baby? Do first kids always come first?

I can't believe I haven't posted in months and now I've posted twice in one day! Ugh... This little monster princess drives me nuts!