Just curious...How do you steps without bios get treated on Mother's Day?

Do you guys get cards? Flowers? Acknowledgment from his kids? Acknowledgment from DH? Or just left out?

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After the hell that DH's kid

After the hell that DH's kid put me through, I do not acknowledge this day as a SM.

Okay, when we say, "ears on a penis", what are we envisioning here exactly? Integrated ears or "dumbo-like" ears? Or maybe they are like bat ears - you know - so a man can find his way around in the dark while naked. Hey that could be useful!

Ha! You guys rule!

LMAO I am now trying to

LMAO

I am now trying to picture penises (penii?) with different sorts of ears....

Not pretty I have to say.

I definitely think we would hear a lot more of speak directly into the microphone. And there would be no concerns about mouths actually touching microphones....

Ahhh this could just go on and on really....

Correction: Half of us can't

Correction: Half of us can't find the bat cave. The other half have found it and don't want to leave.

The kids will be with their

The kids will be with their BMs, as always. SO wont acknowledge the day (he's clueless).

Over the years my emotional

Over the years my emotional reaction to Mother's Day has become so distressing that this year I tried desperately to arrange a week long camping trip out of town over the week of Mother's Day. I had it all planned out. I was going to buy cards and flowers for everyone I needed to do that for , go ahead and give them to them an leave. It fell through and this mothers day i will be coming down with a horrible 24-hour stomach bug.
I don't have kids, I'm not sure if I can have kids, bm is absent minus holidays. Last year she saw ss8 once, at Xmas. She called him on Mother's Day and interrogated him about where he was. It was very stressful. Two years ago my FIL wished me a happy Mother's Day and immediately took it back, laughing and saying "oh wait you're not a mother". Last year my MIL gave me a card, probably my dh said something to her after I screamed and cried for days about what FIL said. Not my finest moment but whatever. No one in my family has ever wished me happy Mother's Day, given me a card or a gift. Ss8 recently told me, as I was packing his lunch and going over his home work, that I am a stepmom and that doesn't count for Mother's Day. I went to his Mother's Day brunch at preschool (for whih i paid half the tuition) for three years because bm was absent and I the kid would have been the only one there without a 'mother'. I now take ss8 to weekly therapy appointments to deal with abandonment issues caused by his mother. Dh gives me a card usually, tells me happy Mother's Day and then avoids me because its my day I the year that I hate everyone. I am we'll aware of the fact that I did not push ss out of my vagina. I do believe that I should get some bloody recognition for raising the kid, through much sacrifice, emotional pain, hard word, sheer will power and love. Mother's Day makes me realize that I am nothing more than the nanny who dh occasionally sleeps with while the mom is on permanent vacation. I contemplate divorce every may.

I'm not anybody's mother, so

I'm not anybody's mother, so I don't celebrate Mother's Day in any way (my own mom has passed away).

I have to admit my DH is

I have to admit my DH is nice. He will get me some token and a card. My children live away and can't always make it to see me but they always call.

SS will not even acknowledge my existence as usual.

I usually try to see my mother (out of town) but since DH is becoming a couch potato I will get 20 questions from mom "where is your DH?" and "why didn't he come with you?" if he doesn't show up with me.

(My parents have been married almost 70 years and go everywhere together).

So in a way that will take the joy out of the visit.

This year should be

This year should be interesting. It is FDH's weekend. But both Skids have games. BM won't want to have to do all of the driving to get them where they need to go, so I kind of doubt she will "demand" to have them all day. Or she will and they will be no-shows at their games. Plus the games eat into time to do dinner or whatever.

Plus, I need to go see my mom, and FDH should go see his.

Last year, Skids were at BMs already, so no biggie there. However, I had bought presents for my mom AND FDH's mom. AND I made sure we visited each house. But did FDH acknowledge me in any way shape or form as someone who takes care of his kids? Nope. Or the fact that had I not gotten something for his mother she would have been ignored too? That was not acknowledged either.

I let him have it by the end of the day. He gave me some lame excuse about being pre-occupied with getting stuff done at the house we were selling. So he "forgot." Whatever. It REALLY made me want to forget him on Father's Day, but no, I made sure he was provided a present and cards from his kids (found, bought and wrapped by me) and made breakfast for everyone that morning. Did ANYONE say thank you? NOPE.

Step anything SUCKS.