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NO UNDERWEAR ON????????

buterfly_2011's picture

So we got SS3 for the weekend. We were pretty excited. It's been a month. When we got him it was worse than usual. He had on NO underwear..... and shoes that were TWO sizes too small AND had busted up laces that didn't even come past the second holes in his shoes. IT was AWFUL!!! I took pictures of his shoes. I am so sick of them doing this. Poor little kid. Every time we get him his clothes have this horrible stinch of being left to mold in the washer for days..... it takes me forever to get the smell out and if I don't wash his blanket it will stink up our ENTIRE house. What is the deal with this crap? Is this chick so lazy that she can't get the laundry to the dryer before it molds and stinks?? AND UM WHY IS HE dressed like he lives in a box under the bridge? EVERY Time we have got him there has been something wrong. Dirty clothes, clothes on backwards... and I'm talking about JEANS.. on BACKWARDS?! Shoes are ALWAYS on the wrong feet and he is always filthy. We have to scoot home to bathe him and change him JUST so we can take him someplace...

The topper of our weekend..... Hold on girls this is a doozy....

We took him to a HUGE park where there was a lot of toys etc. He had gone to the bathroom at home etc so we figured we are safe... well he was running around holding hit butt so I told DH hey he needs to poop go get him. So he went over and SS3 said NO daddy I don't have to go. So DH said ok. WELL...... in a matter of seconds a bunch of kids were yelling... asking him who his parents were etc. HE had gone behind us in the little part of the play ground and just dropped his pants and took a poop. :jawdrop: RIGHT THERE in front of everybody. I was mortified. And sadly he won't let me coddle him or anything so DH ran to the car while all the parents were looking at me... asking me if we go camping alot. I was standing in front of the mess so the kids wouldn't step in it and SS3 was inside the little play house pants down around his ankles. He refused to pull them up for me. It was AWFUL. I called for DH to tell him to pull up his pants. I must have looked like a terrible mom :O Sadly our little SS3 isn't very loving little man. He rarely gives ANY kisses nor hugs at all. He won't let us do anything that shows affection in that way. DH finally came back with some things to clean it up and we went home. Since we get next to no time with him we weren't sure how to handle the situation. We didn't want to scare him so DH told him that from now on he has to use the potty or no more parks or pools or any thing. And then there were no cartoons for an hour. It is a hard situation when you only get maybe two days in within a 6 week period. And because we have heard so many bad things about BM new husband we didn't tell her about it. Just don't want our little guy to get into trouble.

But wow....... what a weekend. I did go shopping for him this weekend. I am mailing out the clothes tonight. She put him in pre school. Will they send him to pre school like how they give him to us? Just INSANE!?

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IAmALady77's picture

THIS!!! ^ Also I haven't been following your story but what she is doing is NEGLECT! Why has your spouse not gotten PC yet?? If you are documenting this then you have a case! She is CLEARLY not caring for him in the courts eyes even if she is just playing a game with the clothes. DO NOT MAIL HER NEW CLOTHES!

buterfly_2011's picture

I have not mailed them...... I was thinking the same thing. If I send them we would never see them. So I decided to keep them for our house. That way we have some for when he visits. Again so we don't even have to open his bag. It's weird she sends A TON of clothes for him when she packs for them. They are all decent clothes. Nothing too bad they just SMELL awful!!!!!!!! It's what we pick him up in that is always so bad. It's like they are always in a hurry so they don't care to make sure he is clean, fed and wearing the basics. He is 3 and I think he pretty much fends for himself. She has 5 kids...... SS is 3, the other is 1 and a new baby PLUS 2 sisters who are around 8 and 11. I do NOT feel sorry for her. She created this issue. She is the one who keeps having babies. So to me they ALL need to be cared for. Meaning bathed, in clean clothes and in clothes that FIT. Dumbass is so lazy she makes him do everything. Well he is only 3. GRRRRR

buterfly_2011's picture

I have all the info BUT his birthday and I guess I need his birthday to do the background check. None of us know what it is. Believe me we are trying. We have even asked HER mom for info...... she is the one who finally gave us the right address for them. BM would not provide us with a physical address. It's been insane.

12yrstepmonster's picture

Ss used to not want to stop playing to go to the bathroom. So he'd have accidents or he'd per in the yard.

Is say you did right. Though DH needs to tell ss that when u tell him somethin.g hr needs to listen.

As for clothing. My sks wore clothing too small for years. Bm didn't buy shoes unless their toes touched the top. Ss was wearing a 4 and Bm was putting him in 2ts. He had red welts on his waiste from his underwear! I bought every bra sd own until 14 when she got crappy attitude with us. Sd showed up as a 9th grader wearing a Shit she wore in the 3rd grade softball leaque. She was wearing adult small, the shirt was a 10-12 youth.

Buy clothes for your house, you can find cheap shoes on clearance, good will, second hand stores and rummages

Lalena75's picture

We get SO's kids like that every weekend no underware no socks feet and shoes reak clothes that don't fit sometimes his son has on his sisters clothes. At first I'd let them wear a new outfit home maybe twice we never saw the clothes again and were always buying undies because they rarely had them on. Now we wash what they came in and send them back that way no undies and socks sometimes. SO would tell nasty bitch why and she'd be all "I well idk why they didn't have them in so and so dressed them not me!" Well maybe that's the problem your never the one who dressed them!

buterfly_2011's picture

um he is 3....... underwear need to be worn. It's that simple. Laziness is bullshit on a parents part.