SD16 went home, and I feel guilty
because I was really enjoying having my house back - until SD16 called us last night crying because she was so homesick for us.
We got her for seven weeks this summer. She was our #1 main cook and grocery-getter. She managed to feed all three of us on $80/week - healthy food, too! Outside of the nutrition plan, SD16 also started walking and doing some easy exercises - and lost 30 lbs. (which still puts her at 5'3" and 175, but 30 LBS!! In 7 weeks!)
SD16 claims that NC feels like home, and LA is just so alien. She misses us, and the dogs, and just hanging out. Of course, MOTY BM won't even consider a custody change - we tried last year. We offered to keep paying CS, to put SD16 in a private Christian school, to get her her driver's license - and to give her back after six months. BM said no way. So we're trying to get SD16 to gut out the last two years until she graduates from high school - then she can go wherever she wants.
BM continues to piss me off. When your kid comes home after nearly 2 months having made a radical change in herself, do you fuss over her? No, you make it ALL ABOUT BM and her SINGING SOLO at church tomorrow! And then tell the teenager to quit being picky about her food when she won't touch the fat-and-carb fest that afternoon. How about recognizing that hard work, BM?? Oh wait, it's not people fawning over YOU, so it needs to be swept under the rug.
BM also got pissy that DH didn't get SD16's chipped tooth fixed. It's purely cosmetic and barely noticeable. DH pays for dental insurance, but the copay for cosmetic procedures is only 10%. BM would rather DH do it (which involves MAJOR insurance paperwork headaches - he has to change her insurance region and then change it back) so she doesn't have to. Hell, BM hasn't taken SD16 to the dentist AT ALL since 2008, and has NEVER gotten her vision checked. BM claims she will call DH, but we laaaaaauuughed about that - it'll happen when BM flies.
Gah. At least I have a good skid. We'll see her again in December, and then again next summer. I just can't wait for the day we get to spring her from the hellhole she's in.
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She's 16 most judges will err
She's 16 most judges will err on the choice of the child at that age as long as it's a good environment so you can always try that route (depending on cost and such you could request a change without a lawyer) It's fantastic she was able to make such a great diet change and on a budget i would love to know how she did that I have 4to to 6discuss to feed and all but myself and the 5 year old could use a better diet and it's hard when your broke. Your lucky she's a good kid sounds like my dd and I'm kinda glad I'm not the only one with a well behaved 16 yr old lol.
She got a lot of recipes from
She got a lot of recipes from a budget blog - http://budgetbytes.blogspot.com
We ate baked chicken a lot, with steamed veggies. ZERO pre-packaged food - even the pizza was homemade. (pizza is cheap; flour, water, yeast, tomato paste, olive oil, spices, a little cornmeal, spinach, mushrooms, leftover cooked chicken) Homemade yogurt in the crockpot with thawed-out frozen fruit for breakfast; cheaper than individual containers. Salads with extra veggies and chicken.
We also have a small garden, so I haven't had to buy tomatoes since May. Basil for marinade or bruchetta. Fresh green beans and cucumbers for snacks and sides.
Louisiana is seriously backward, and BM is psycho. DH and I are both military, and NO judge is going to hand over a teenaged girl (no matter how much she wants to) to her military out-of-state father. After SD16 turns 18, she has 133 days until high school graduation, which will probably be on BM's 40th birthday. I will have some serious tongue-biting to do to keep the peace, but do I want to? I have NOTHING to lose, and SD wants OUT.