Lets see how long this lasts...
Well, SD16 is here.
After the shenanigans of last fall, SD16 got put on Depo. She has gained ANOTHER 20 lbs, so she's right at 200 lbs at 5'5". I'm not sure if it's from the Depo, or if it's from being grounded for six months straight with nothing to do but eat. (encouraged by her 250+lb mother)
SD16 has some goals for this summer. She wants to play soccer next year. She wants a job. She was bugging ME all weekend about job hunting and getting an exercise program started. I love DH, but I swear, he has disengaged from his own kid. She gravitates toward me, and he just assumes I will parent her while he goes off to work - even though I work full time too.
I'm working funny hours this week and don't have to head to work until 11. So I told SD16 that I would be exercising at 7, and we'd go pick up job applications starting at 9. SD16 got herself up at 6:15, and was ready to go on a powerwalk, with some core abdominal exercises at 7. She was ready to leave the house at 9, and we chose some retail stores that are on the bus route so she can be SURE of getting there. I hung out in her sight, but SD16 did all of the approaching and asking for applications. (she got 9 of them)
While I was at work, she filled them all out. Tomorrow, we will be turning them in.
Let's see how long the motivation lasts - I'm pretty proud of this day's effort.
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I hope for her sake it the
I hope for her sake it the streak lasts.
I hear about a new goal every time we see DH's kid. Drives me nuts.
Depo and bad food choices are a bad combination. Plus an overweight BM will not encourage her to be healthy.
I'm not sure how long your SD will be staying there, but I think it takes 6 weeks for something to become a habit. I could be wrong on the time frame. Maybe during her stay she'll adopt some good habits and they will stick.
It's so nice of you to be
It's so nice of you to be parenting her in such a positive way. All you can do is set a good example and give her the best advice you can. Your husband also needs to celebrate her success at getting a job and exercising. She is obviously looking to you for help, at least she wants your help and involvement. Good for her for getting up on time, getting the apps herself etc. No young woman wants to look at their big fat mom and imagine themselves like that.
Way better than my SD by far.
Way better than my SD by far. I hope it continues
SD16 will be here for 7
SD16 will be here for 7 weeks. She is also in charge of all things food-related. She's getting $100/week to feed the three of us breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks. Anything left over will be hers at the end of July. We also switched out all of our dinner plates - we use Corelle dishware, and replaced the dinner plates with the 8 1/2" "lunch" plates, so portions look bigger. DH and I started this diet on 01 April - I lost 10 lbs, and he lost 15. We know that she's going to feel like she's STARVING for the first couple of weeks, but there is NO JUNK in the house. She can eat veggies, or apples, or almonds, and if we run out, it'll come out of HER pocket.
I really understand good intentions - but we stayed up a little late last night, and she's still zonked out at 6:30 right now. I think I'll give her a nudge for 7, but that's it. If she won't come I'll go run a couple of miles by myself; I need to anyway.
Job-wise, I think I need to push her some. She contacted some of her babysitting customers in LA on her own to ask if she can use them for references - she's scared that she just doesn't qualify for a lot of these jobs because they ask if she's 18. I got my first full-time job after I graduated from high school at the age of 17, so I know it doesn't matter. And I also know it doesn't matter her age in the summertime - state law doesn't restrict her hours if she's not in school.
all I saw on this was your
all I saw on this was your title and this statement:
Well, SD16 is here
and i lost my breathe...good luck!