Be honest. Tell him you were looking forward to it just being you 3 and doing something special. Ask if the SD's can come to the next holiday (Labor Day). I think that being honest it the best thing you can do. If you aren't you it is just something that will fester and build resentment.

I would say though to phrase it as though you are planning something to include them next time so it doesn't seem like you are trying to push out the skids.

As much as I cannot stand to be around SD15, the holidays I feel I cannot complain about. I do secretly wish that she will not be with us but she always is. Usually I will suggest she bring a friend, that way she is not up DH's butt the entire time.

What does the CO say? Are they are scheduled to be with BM on The 4th? If so, just ask him to stick to the schedule.

SDs5 and 7 will always be with us on The 4th since DF gets them for the whole month of July. He would be livid if I tried to get him to exclude them from our plans.

BM never wanted the skids on holidays. She always wanted us to have them so she could party. DH never understood how old it got with every holiday being about their visit. When bios came I made it clear that my kids would not have their holidays and vacations centered around skids. Tell him how you are a family without skids and you must have family time for just the 3 of you. Ask him how your daughter will feel if she grows up thinking nothing special is celebrated unless SD are present.

That's pretty hard to exclude the skids from a holiday. It's one thing to exclude them from a family thing on a regular day but holidays are tough. In my family my mother has big parties for all holidays so for me its a mandatory appearance and. Skid always comes because we have him full time and BM has NASCAR to watch and parties to get drunk at.

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I think the real problem here is your husband made a promise and now he's just blowing it off. There's nothing you can do now without sounding like an evil witch who is trying to exclude the SKs but I would have a talk with my DH about how if he makes a promise he needs to keep it! Otherwise, quit saying the word. It makes him seem like someone you can't trust.

I think it depends on what the co says if it is bms holiday then she should have them. I remember that yuck wanted us to have the boys every Halloween and i just couldn't take it anymore and i told dh that. He surprisingly said ok and told yuck we have plans and she has to keep them.

My point is that it is not right for one parent to have the kids every holiday especially if the co says otherwise.