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Submitted by hatinthis31 on Thu, 05/17/2012 - 5:59pm

Smile in the nick of time too...i have been contemplating divorce for the last few weeks...i feel awful and alone i cant believe there is a place like this to talk about my situation. i thought i was the only one who felt this way...its crazy but i googled " i hate my stepchildren" and this popped up..this may be just what i need.. i have been with my husband for 12 years and i love him but i cant stand his children and their mother, well thats a whole other story..shes crazy and makes life so hard for us that its put a major strain on our marriage. now his son is 18 and wants to live with us cause he thinks he can do whatever he wants so its gettin worse around here and idk what will be the outcome...i want to just walk away from everything.......

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Submitted by hatinthis31 on Thu, 05/17/2012 - 6:08pm

thank u so much.. i have indeed felt like a monster lately but i really cant help it..i will be lookin for that book asap!

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Submitted by Ommy on Thu, 05/17/2012 - 6:13pm

it will help you understand that you are NOT alone in any way and it will help your husband as well. It helped mine open his eyes.

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Submitted by hatinthis31 on Thu, 05/17/2012 - 6:31pm

thank u

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Submitted by Hindsightis2020 on Thu, 05/17/2012 - 6:35pm

This. This book was incredibly validating for me. It helped me understand a lot of what was going on in my world... AND it helped me to read passages to my DH so he would understand what was going on, and what to do about it.

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Submitted by hatinthis31 on Thu, 05/17/2012 - 6:12pm

he says he is tryin to get away from his mother but i think he thinks he can play around and not get a job or start a life of his own..yes i have 2 children with my husband and their 10yrs old...we havnt discussed it much about him movin in but my husband will just say i dont want him around and truth is i dont..how awful is that??? he drives me nuts and is very immature..my 10 yr old are more grown up acting than him

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Submitted by hatinthis31 on Thu, 05/17/2012 - 6:30pm

its so nice to have someone to tell this too...thank u! we r gonna have a talk soon i just dred it..he works out of town alot too and thats another thing..i dont wanna be here alone with him all the time either..its so akward cause we dont have anything in common and have never bonded

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Submitted by hatinthis31 on Thu, 05/17/2012 - 6:46pm

it does...i feel a weight lifting... i have tried to talk to a close family member but she doesnt truly understand..its so easy when its others in the same boat cause they understand the anger, frustration, gulit, fear etc....i have felt for so long that i was a horrible person but i guess im not alone now:)

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Submitted by hatinthis31 on Thu, 05/17/2012 - 7:08pm

lol...once again im ssoooooo glad im not the only one...my husbands ex just split with her man too and to make matters worse his son told us last week that she may want my husband back...wonder if hes startin trouble????? thats so cool u have twins too..i have a friend that has stepkids but shes a freak of nature and thinks her skids are the greatest which their not...id like them much either....it feels so good to say that in the open to someone else..lol

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Submitted by hatinthis31 on Thu, 05/17/2012 - 8:14pm

no he has a 16 yr old daughter that calls another man dad..she is a carbon copy of her mom..we dont c her much...i do think my friend does have a few issues shes not telling cause ive cleaned her house before and she only asked for help after "the Kids" leave she says, "cause they wreck the place" shes only been married a few years and they have 2 small kids together of whom she is very protective of so i feel that will lead to issues later. shes just beginning!!