So as most of you know, last June BM got a restraining order on me. It was absolute bullshit, I fought it and I lost.

Back story is SO's uncle was getting married and SO had volunteered to work the wedding (bartending and music). It was a Saturday night, before they had a CO in place so BM was still forcing him to take SD whenever she wanted and then using the "you don't love your daughter" nonsense.

he had been on the phone with her for HOURS trying to explain that he had prior engagements and could not just drop everything and take SD that night, to which he was called a liar and a POS ect ect.

Silly naieve me thought that if I just calmly explained to her the situation everything would be better
LOL. It was better, for a full 24 hours. I talked to BM and she seemed nice. (this was our 2nd communication at this point) (first communication came via FB message when she tried to warn me about SO's non-existant genital warts before we were even dating, or friends for that matter).

She wanted to meet, I agreed to meet up with her the next day to meet in person and talk about SD since I had moved in with SO and I wanted her to meet me so she would be confortable with me being around SD. THAT Is IT.

The next day, I texted her and asked what time she wanted to meet up? Her reply was that if I ever texted her again she would be calling the police and this was my last warning.

Silly little me wondered what I could possibly have done to make her flip on me so I texxted her back asking what was wrong?

I get a call from the sherrif with a cease and desist 20 minutes later.

2 days later I am served AT WORK with a PPO.
I appealed it THAT DAY and got a court date.

we went to court and BM lied her ass off saying I texted her repeatedly threatening her life and her daughters life and that I am stalking her and it creeps her out that I am so obsessed and she just wants to be left alone LOL.

I tried to subpoena my phone records to prove that this WAS NOT true but they never came through, and I was so embarrased about being called out as a creepy lesbian stalker in court that I couldn't get my argument out well enough. The judge granted her PPO (better safe than sorry I guess from his point) and here we are almost a year later.

I would also like to point out that in the original petition, BM had checked off the "other" box and wrote in that I was not to be around during SO's parenting time with her "kid". The judge left that out in the order but still, that should have been transparent enough to her motives right?

My thing is now, I have for the past year been contimplating writing her a letter. A very nice non-threatening letter letting her know that I will not be putting up with her games anymore and to leave me the hell out of her issues. Or something like that, along with once again trying to extend the hand of cordiality so we can both get along for the sake of SD.

But the other side is I am thinking of just disengaging from her and not saying anything. Just ignoring her from here on out.

But the thing is, if I ignore her, her logic will be that I am afraid of her and she will then go on to taunt my character some more. SO either I put her in her place and she trys to get another ppo on me or I ignore her and I am a scared little "bitch" (she has called me this before) for not standing up for myself.

what would you guys do?