Having doubts...
I love my Dh...but I have realized how much happier i am that I don't live with him and his kids and all of their drama. I miss him so bad that it hurts. We see each other when we can, but it is not very often. We talk on the phone all of the time.
I just know that I cannot live in THAT house with him and SD14 and watch the "mini-wife" continue to rule and DH's constant "ostrich effect" when it comes to BM and SD14.
I like my house and the no drama. I get the respect that I deserve from my BS9, and I get to spend much more uninterrupted time with him without someone whining that I am showing "favortisim". UGH!
DH told me last night that he has never been so scared of losing me...we will see if his actions speak louder than his words. As of right now, I am pretty much elusive. If he doesn't ask to do something with me..I will go out with my friends. There will be NO assumptions that he can come over and just crawl right back up on the comfy couch!
I DEMAND that things change...and if they don't...my foot is already out the door.
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You are not alone, I love my
You are not alone, I love my wife so much, but she is being controlled by " mini husband" her son 13, he tells her what to do, if I step in, I feel like the bad guy, I accually, thought about my old apartment today, and when I was single, but, I was lonely
It's best to completely end
It's best to completely end it. We all know that once you go back, things will get even worse, even though there are promises to "do better" and "change."
What they fear is the "loss" of their built in maid, built in bed-buddy, built in financial support for their spawn, built in nanny service, built in cook, chauffer, grocery getter, financial manager, in many cases breadwinner and paralegal.
They don't miss SM as a person. They will go back out into the world and find another gullible woman with stars in her eyes; thinking that this man must be good to be such a "family oriented" man.
When you go back, human nature being what it is and that blood is thicker than water, eventually biodad and skids will fall back into their old comfortable habits and decline progressively from there.
The ONLY change is that SM "adapts" and becomes a different STYLE, SIZE, COLOUR doormat.
Sometime I stay up after
Sometime I stay up after everyone has gone to bed just so that I pretend I live alone in my house again. I miss that lots but I wouldn't want to take my sons father from him.
well, and I love him not his spawn but him for the most part.
That's why I don't go on the
That's why I don't go on the drop-offs, it is my only time without conniving MIL and SD around.
I just cannot believe that
I just cannot believe that you are even GIVING this guy another chance. I cannot believe that your love for him has not been turned into hatred by him FILING FOR A DIVORCE AND THREATENING TO MOVE SOMEONE ELSE IN.....RIGHT during your cancer scare!! OMG.
Please consider counseling for yourself...besides any couples counseling you are doing together. You need to figure out why you are allowing yourself to be treated like this by this guy.
I guess I am just a hopeless
I guess I am just a hopeless romantic...looking for that fairytale ending. I believe in second chances. I don't HATE anyone. I think that is SUCH a strong word.
I want to believe everything DH is telling me, but I have trust issues...always have.
He did not file for divorce, and he lives alone with his kids. Since I have left...he has gone to all of my doctors appointments....even with my mom sitting there giving him the evil eye.
I am working on getting MYSELF some counceling....without him. For now, I will not make any rash decisions.
So you can't hate him for the
So you can't hate him for the way he treated you. How about loving yourself and your child more than you love him.
Thanks Disney...I do love my
Thanks Disney...I do love my son more than him. That's why I had to get out of the situation we were in. It was not healthy with the feelings that were so hurt at the time. Since we left, I have not seen his kids and they have not seen my son. I refuse to yo-yo my son like that. Now I spend time with my son and I enjoy every minute of it.
I refuse to get back in that same situation...like I said...second thoughts. I honestly don't know how to gage if the situation has indeed changed without moving back in...which I will not do. I am thinking we are staying at our current residence permanently...I am content with things just as they are. But I do miss DH.