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Submitted by mndblwn on Wed, 09/28/2011 - 7:17pm

our lovely BM hit and killed a pedestrian while ss6 was with her. she called DH the next day and told him that she was involved in a little accident where she clipped a person. skid is ok and yes he was in seat belt and she wouldn't let DH talk to skid until later that night during his scheduled time. when pickup of skid came BM laughed as she told DH that she clipped someone and look how it took out her driver side headlight. this man she hit died basically at the scene but was pronounced dead at hospital. she wasn't cited and the police deemed it a complete accident.

she now has the nerve to try and take weekend visitation that isn't hers per our court order yet we are the ones that need to grow up she tells us. she also won't completely tell DH about the accident and states that her bf told her not even to tell DH because he would just be difficult and rude to her.

she then goes on to tell us that her bf wants to go back to court because of her having to drive three weekends a month 3.5 hours each way to spend with skid. see he pays for the gas because she only has part time job. she blames everything on him so that she doesn't have to own up to anything herself. she has no remorse for killing the man either. she told DH he couldn't have police report because he would use it against her. This is a woman who made an emergency motion to the court and took skid out of school and custody based on a lie that DH overdosed while at home and was unconscious with skid. i made sure that kid never saw a cop or ambulance that night and called her within one hour of my husband being found almost dead for her to get skid on time for her spring break visit. she was able to talk to skid whenever she wanted that night but yet waits and really doesn't want to tell that skid witnessed her killing a man?

what would all of you do? take her back to court and get legal primary custody based on the fact that she lies and hides things, put skid in situation that he is talked to by cops and also unstable in the fact that she writes DH a letter saying how good of a man he is and let's work together then 2 weeks later because she is wrong tells him to grow up and take parenting classes???

help with this because we need to jump on court if thats what we do

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Totalybogus's picture

Submitted by Totalybogus on Wed, 09/28/2011 - 7:28pm

The police report is public record. He can get a copy of it from the records section of the police department. What your DH really SHOULD be worried about is how this may be affecting his child and perhaps get him/her in to see a counselor.

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Submitted by sonja on Wed, 09/28/2011 - 7:39pm

Yikes, yeah Id be worried about how skid is feeling as well. An exbf of mine about 5 yrs back hit someone by accident in the dark/rain... he was scarred for quite a while and wouldnt drive and battled guilt.

I was a mess for a while and I wasnt even in the car, but came to the scene after it happened while the police and everybody was there. Id be especially since BM is acting like its no big deal/or even funny from how you describe it? 6 is plenty old enough to have mixed feelings on an event such as this, and hed be my main concern as BM is clearly stupid.

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Submitted by sonja on Wed, 09/28/2011 - 7:40pm

Yikes, yeah Id be worried about how skid is feeling as well. An exbf of mine about 5 yrs back hit someone by accident in the dark/rain... he was scarred for quite a while and wouldnt drive and battled guilt.

I was a mess for a while and I wasnt even in the car, but came to the scene after it happened while the police and everybody was there. Id be especially since BM is acting like its no big deal/or even funny from how you describe it? 6 is plenty old enough to have mixed feelings on an event such as this, and hed be my main concern as BM is clearly stupid.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Wed, 09/28/2011 - 7:49pm

I agree with Totaly in that DH should be able to obtain a copy of the police report from BM's police department. Counseling for SS couldn't hurt either.

I'm bothered by the fact that BM has no remorse for what happened, even though it was an accident. I can't imagine how badly I'd feel if I were the driver of that car. Build a good paper trail on BM to use in court because I'd be worried if my child was being raised by someone who has no remorse about this, even though it was an accident.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Wed, 09/28/2011 - 7:59pm

I agree with anon here I just went through the same thing only that no one died thank god! I wasn't in the car and I was a complete wreck. My son that was the driver was so tore up he couldn't sleep or eat much and is in counselling.

I agree you need to get a paper trail and use against her especially since she is saying you will use it against her, I have a feeling there is some thing there she doesn't want dh to find out about.

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Submitted by CalgonTakeMeAway on Wed, 09/28/2011 - 8:25pm

I'm a complete wreck if I hit an animal. I don't think I'd ever get over it if I hit and killed a person, accident or not. Laughing it off is abnormal. Definitely get the child into counseling. First, it's traumatic to be in an accident of any kind, especially a fatal one; Second, you do not want that child emulating BM's behavior and attitude about it. Wow..she's a piece of work.

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Submitted by Auteur on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 8:45am

**like**

This BM of yours is an absolute NARCISSIST and should NOT have custody of a child. She acts as though she ran over a paperclip on the road!! What a PSYCHO!!