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Submitted by newmom01 on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 11:33am

I just read another person story on here about BM coming into her house and standing next to her bed while she was sleeping.

But I have allowed BM to come to my home a total of 3 times only!

The first one was to ALLOW her to drop of ss's at my beautifully manicured yard, evenly cut green grass, beautiful palm trees swaying in the wind, the shadow of my two story home covering her dusty car.

The second time I actually let her come in to my lovely living space, custom window treatments, shiny wood floors, and gorgeous tile. After I let her in I let her follow me into my kitchen where I was preparing a HOME COOKED dinner for my DH and her children that even made my neighbors come out (and made me feel even better) because they said "smells good whats for dinner today" telling her that I cook on a regular basis. Large flatscreen on wall surrounded by expensive (still paying on Wink ) leather furniture and coffee tables.

Now the third time was not really my doing, :O at this time I was pregnant with my first son, I had been to a meeting earlier that day and put my phone on vibrate and forgot to turn it back on. It so happens that my DH was trying to call me all day, I had not noticed that I havent talked to him because I was so busy that day. Anyhow he asked BM of all people to go by the house and check on (Little old ME) I didnt know he had called her till she showed up!

I had just gotten hair done, and my make up was perfect (I had business to do that day so I was nicely made up) so I had no problem letting her in. DOWNSIDE: I was pregnant and tired from all the running around I was doing so I had stopped to get myself somethign to eat ....I was surrounded by food and bags from this famous bar-b-q spot in my city and cheescake! That was so embarrasing! No I look like a pig!

I called him to ask why in heavens name would he send her, he said he called everybody else either they did not answer or they were not near by!

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 11:46am

Cute take on it, but I don't care if I lived in the Taj Mahal I don't want BMs skanky white trash butt in MY home... EVER!

Luckily we're in the process of buying a new home which will be about a 30 minute drive from BM. i suspect she'll drop SS of at least once to be nosy, but after that, she'll NEVER do a drop off again.. heaven forbid she won't have time with her PT job, her cult church that she goes to like 12 times a week (and still acts like a freek) and bitching about how she doesn't ever have any money.

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Submitted by buttercookie on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 11:57am

I'd love to shoot my BM if she ever tried coming in to my home, I'd call the cops and tell them I just shot an intruder cuz I feared for my life. Yeah I'm a beotch. I don't take to anyone tresspassing.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 12:09pm

I have never minded BM coming in as far as the front entrance. She can get a glance of what a REAL HOME looks like, and she always comments on my OCD need to have a clean house. She tells me now that her BF is OCD about a clean house "like you are" (meaning me). One of the reasons I know her relationship won't last once they move in together. I lived with a pig once (my exH). OCD and PIG don't live well together. If he is anywhere CLOSE to as maticulous about a clean house as I am, I can't believe he is even sleeping with her, because she is DIRTY. I am talking staph infection from picking her face, and having a filthy house, dirty.

It's when she pushes her way IN TO my house and goes upstairs that I have a problem with. And trust me, after the last time she did it, it will NEVER happen again. DH made her feel pretty stupid about it.

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 12:14pm

Yup, I don't give a crap how much better my home is than hers. I'm not in any sort of competition with her. She's an ex-wife, not an opponent. She is not allowed in my home because she's not a friend or family member.

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Submitted by WickednNasty on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 12:19pm

For some reason they have a desire to see where we live, how we live. I really don't know, nor care. Dh was in a lengthy battle with Bm, mostly over material things she wanted out of our home. Atari machine and games? Stuffed animals from when you were a teenager C'mon. How significant is that? We had been given a list of things after she was allowed in the home multiple times to remove things that didn't exsist in the home, or we tossed them while cleanning. Mind you this woman used the shower stall as a closet......, piled from floor to ceiling AN ABSOULTE PIG. She saved her postive Pregancy Tests.....NOT in plastic bags or anything.
I still remember finding her flippin Vibrators and Lesbian Porno movies........ I screamed and marched those out to the Garbage cans ASAP. Imagine sticking your hand into a black bag, wrapping your fingers around that baby? (Thank Gawd I wore latex glvoes)

I may have tossed a few things out by mistake as there was soooooo much shit in that house. Dh eventually refused additional requests as she wanted the shit boxed, in addition to asking for imaginary items and delivered KMA. One day as they prepared for the Trial, dinners on the stove waiting for him. I'd picked the Skids up from school, table set, I haddn't heard from him, next thing I know theres a knock on the door. It was my DH (BF at the time), with his Lawyers, because this Biotch cried and whinned so much the Judge ordered us to allow her into our home to get her things and that would be it with both sets of Lawyers present. Why she wanted to come into my home is beyond me, but she did.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 12:21pm

Sick. I would vomit if I ever came acrossed anything like that of BM's. Nasty nasty, dirty whore that she is, probably contract something right through the latex.

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Submitted by Newstep on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 12:22pm

The BM lived with my BF in the house we are in for about 9 mos before she moved out. She would come and go as she pleased after that, I moved 1 1/2 yrs after she moved out. From that day on she is not allowed in my home. She tried in the beginning to come over always when she knew I wasn't home but BF stopped her cold Smile

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 12:28pm

SD14's mom is welcomed in our home. I'm welcomed in her home as well.

If SDs4 &6 mom ever sets foot in my home, I'd beat the hell out of her.

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Submitted by helena_brass on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 12:37pm

BM has never been to our house, not even to pick up/drop off the kids. She's asked to, but FDH won't let her. He freaks out at the idea of her coming near our house. He said it's because our house is nicer than hers, and if she saw it she'd want more from him. I've seen the outside of her house, and I don't think ours looks outrageously better. I think he's just freaked out at the idea of her getting any closer to his business/his new life with me than necessary. He's suggested that if she knew where we lived she might try to find "accidental" reasons to run into us or randomly drop by for something.

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Submitted by newmom01 on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 12:56pm

Well that was that ...Especially after that picture stunt, she is not even allowed on my street, or my driveway my DH takes them home, and if she needs to come get them, she meets dh down the street and around the corner!

She is no longer allowed on my property! It sure feels good to own! She was trying to (RENT) a house, but it fell through ...it cute when they TRY to copy.....guess that little old apartment will have to do!

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 1:12pm

I CAN'T WAIT to move out of the house that FDH and BM bought together. That was #2 dumbest decision he ever made (#1 was not leaving her after she aborted their first pregnancy, and not using protection, which is why SS4 is in the world).

The other day, without premeditation, I said to BM, "I have to be at MY house at 5:45" and she visibly flinched.

Needless to say every single room in our house has been changed but one -- and that one room is getting painted next week Smile We've renovated everything. i'm sure BM is just dying to see it but she's never allowed past our entryway and you can't see much because it's a split entry.

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Submitted by dragonfly5 on Thu, 09/15/2011 - 1:34pm

Not at my home ever! And mine is much nicer than hers. She has to meet SO at the mcdonalds down the street.

I do now want that trash in my neighborhood. If she will scream, fuss, fight and spit on people in her neighborhood, goodness knows what it would be like in mine.

This I have made absolutely clear.

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Submitted by Jsmom on Fri, 09/16/2011 - 8:17am

Ours comes, but has not been past the front step, since I moved in. With things so ugly now, she pretty much stays in the car. Last time she did was after we served her and we have a new Bay window that I was sitting at when she came. I was not going to move and continued to stare her down while she sat there waiting for SS. Petty, yes. But, it felt good. I never have gotten out of the car for drop offs or pick ups. Why does she have to? DH doesn't either. Since the stare down, I have noticed she doesn't come as much and has his Stepdad bring him.