:O as if I should be. Ok if you read my post about CS (post right before this one) then lets just call this continued edition of psycho b*&^& and money hungriness. SHE had the guts to SHOW UP UNANNOUNCED at MY house for the 3rd time!!!!! mistake number 1.- she gets off work at 4pm showed up at 5:45pm takes 30 minutes tops to get home from her work...so she went home GOT SS6 and brought him with HER to come YELL at DH for 30 minutes about child support!!!!! mistake number 2.- she was saying how DH made these choices and couldnt afford his first child so why he was "stupid enough" to have 2 more is beyond her. :jawdrop: are you serious!!!!!! you talk like that (and cussed the whole time) in front of your 6 yr old son to HIS FATHER!!!!! sorry but I dont care who you are if you talk like that in front of your child and then get mad about how they say "Ni99**" this and "F^^^^" that at 6 when kid doesnt hear it here then you need to check yourself before throwing stones at others. DH told her that "what goes on at MY house is none of your business" when she started talking about him not being able to afford our children (BS19 months and BD that is not here yet but should be in 10 days (c sec) and counting). she said he is "no better than her and could work 2 jobs." good point coming from someone who has only worked one job for the past 3 years and does what she wants with the CS and has no bills besides car, ins, and cell. Here is the kicker....ready.....she said that X amount (court ordered support amount) is not enough for her son for a month and doesnt go very far when you get him clothes and food for the month. please tell me I am not insane to think that if you are buying clothes EVERY month for a child that is going to grow out of them you are completely a shopaholic and stupid. As for FOOD if she bought stock in MCDONALDS or WENDYS maybe they would pay her back! she doesnt cook (lives with her parents and they are still close with DH so we know she doesnt pay rent, cook, or anything there) and gets him whatever junk food he wants every day. If you have seen any of my other post we have problems getting SS6 to eat "real food" and now DH is finally seeing my point! he asked me tonight to find out where to get SS6 checked for malnutrition without BM finding out (he is on her insurance and DH asked me to find out because I am a CMA and have connections that he might not) cause he is going to use it against her in court since she is taking him to court over CS now. She says he is behind A WHOLE LOT MORE than he is (lost his job but was on time for the 2 years prior to this year). He is also supposed to pay half of the medical for SS but BM NEVER tells us when she takes SS to the doctor so how do we know when to pay that since we get no reports about doctor visits or anything? I think she thinks that she is setting him up to go to jail or something but from what I understand as long as he has PAID something to her EACH MONTH proving that he is trying to "catch up or stay on track" there is really nothing she can do. IS this true??? we live in Georgia, USA. I do not work at all and havent in a year (was a full time student looked and am still looking for work but being pregnant kinda throws a wrench in it) and could not afford our bills and children on NO income if he was to get in trouble. I dont think he will cause he has paid her she just doesnt like the way he has to do it and thinks she should get money every week vs every other week. he bought some school stuff for SS but didnt give her CS this week (couldnt afford it due to other expenses ie diapers, utilities that we cant go without, and the fact that we had to buy groceries for the week since SS6 was with us last week. DH gets paid every other week) I also wish I knew a lawyer that could tell me what constitutes as harassment..like her calling 10 times back to back with no messages left and showing up here without calling or even leaving a message one of the million times a day she calls about money til she gets a call back to see if she can come over and "talk" about it or what have you. I want to call the cops on her and make her leave and file a harassment order on her so she cant come back to our house but I dont know if that is possible. Again sorry for the long post just had to vent.

Now a days its not about the kid its about the BM that is so stupid and selfish that she cant even see what she does could affect the kid when he gets older. You should never underestimate the mind of a child, just because you say something you dont mean to say in front of them doesnt mean they didnt hear and understand you!