Nasty habit!!!
SS8 has a nasty habit of not cleaning himself well after he uses the bathroom. I have found #2 on his clothes, his laundry basket (which I threw away) on the shower curtain, as well as other places. It's disgusting.
When I confronted my husband telling him that I wasn't going to wash SS8's clothes anymore because I was totally grossed out, he said "But you would do it for your son". (trying to make me feel bad) Ummm hello! My son is 2 months old. HUGE difference. Also, I cleaned up after SD5 after she got sick and soiled her clothes and vomited on my couch, carpet, etc. And I would clean up after SS8 if he got sick too. But being too lazy to wipe is NOT a sickness! It's a nasty habit.
My son is a baby. An 8 year old boy should know how to use the bathroom! If my son did this when he was 8, he would not only be disciplined for it, he would be made to clean it up himself.
It's not just his poor wiping abilities that are a problem either. In the shower, he thinks it's ok to just stand under the water and if for any reason we forget to tell him to brush his teeth, he just won't. Even SD5 knows to brush her teeth. I get grossed out when he sits on my furniture. Isn't that sad?!
Recently, my husband put SS8's clothes on the laundryroom floor (remember, I threw out his soiled laundry basket). I step over them to do my, my husband's, my son's, and my SD5's laundry. If my husband thinks its fine to let his son be disgusting in my house, then my husband can clean up after him.
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On the shower curtain??? How
On the shower curtain??? How in the world...aside from grabbing the curtain & cleaning himself with it...can that happen?
Because it gets on his hands
Because it gets on his hands and then on the things he touches. He doesn't feel the need to clean his hands either. I even put a friendly post it on the door to remind him - didn't work.
LOVE the bucket idea! I'll
LOVE the bucket idea! I'll have to let hubby know that I'm taking bucket action next time!
It's so frustrating how much
It's so frustrating how much extra work has to be done when there is someone on the other end making it seem like the bad habit is no big deal. I'm glad you were able to make some change on the bed wetting though. It's so sad that the BM doesn't see how important it is for her son to break the habit. Or how embarassing it could be for him at sleepovers
Kids do not come pre-trained
Kids do not come pre-trained for general use ! They need constant and patient reminders and guidance on the norms and customs of our society. Why is that such a foreign concept??? Parents need to teach their kids how to do things, and correct and reteach when they see them getting it wrong.
It doesn't make the child a bad child. It makes the parent a bad parent. It also will make one poorly molded adult someday.
I worry about what our world is turning into.
I certainly agree 100%, it's
I certainly agree 100%, it's not SM's responsibility to teach kids these kinds of things, it all falls on DAD.
My point was only that parenting doesn't end at 4 or 5 or 6 or any magic age, or once they master a skill, it requires continual monitoring. Any kid will become lazy and let things they've learned go if allowed to do so. The only person in this equation that is truely lazy is the dad.
It's my complaint with my DH also, he just sits on the couch and lets the kids do anything they want and never says a word to them then wonders why I am stressed out and irritated with everyone. No, it's all not the kids fault that they tracked water thru the house from the pool, because you see it all the time and don't stop them so of course they think it's ok.
You would be amazed at the
You would be amazed at the number of kids that are never taught proper hygiene-I see it all the time in my work. Your dh is responsible for teaching him how to wipe and checking to make sure he does so. My guess is that if your dh stays on top of this for a week or so- the problem would be solved.
Tell him "You are right,
Tell him "You are right, absolutely I would do it for my son, so I know you will have no problem doing it for YOURS!"
Give him two choices - he can either parent his child OR start putting $50.00 a week in a "replacement" envelope you can use to replace everything you need to throw away with BM (pun intended ) on them .