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Submitted by StepMadre on Mon, 03/28/2011 - 9:37pm

Hey All!!

It's been a while since I posted and in the meantime a lot has happened. Things got so bad and I was so unhappy with both being a step-mom to two horrendous freaks and my failing marriage that, after much thought, counseling and support from friends and family, I decided to leave my husband and get a divorce.

I am FREE!!!!!!!

I am dealing with my sadness and grief over this, but I know it was the right decision and I feel hopeful and happy for the first time since I met ex-H!!!! I'm sad that my marriage ended because I meant it when I vowed to be with him for life, but he failed to hold up his vows to me and I am not going to be one of those fools who stays in a miserable marriage because of vows or guilt!

I cannot describe how happy I am to not be around my ex-skids anymore!!!! FUCK THEM AND THEIR WHORE OF A MOTHER!!!!!!!!!

I am FREE, FREE, FREE!!!!!

Anyway, I just wanted to thank you all for all the support and advice you have given me and I wish you all the best in your lives. Goodbye and good luck!!!

Love, No Longer A StepMadre Smile

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Submitted by StepMadre on Mon, 04/04/2011 - 1:11am

Thanks so much Is1988! I will definitely pop by now and then to support and encourage all you wonderful stepmom's and stepdads. I have had so much support and great advice and I will always be grateful for my sisters in step-parenting that I've received here. Love you guys!

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Submitted by mom23ms on Mon, 03/28/2011 - 9:43pm

Congratulations! I was FREE then I thought I would possibly go back. WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING? I didn't even move back...some of your wonderful people made me come to my senses before I made a big mistake. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! I now live by "Not my kid, not my problem." As of today I have said HELL NO I AM NOT COMING BACK and I don't regret it.

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Submitted by caregiver1127 on Mon, 03/28/2011 - 10:00pm

Congrats and I find that every single person who has left a horrible and intolerable step situation all breathe the biggest sighs of relief when they no longer have to deal with the children - you all miss your husbands but I have not read one story here where the BM especially or the skids are missed. Please let us know how you are doing from here on out and if you feel the need to go back or are starting to feel week - then get on here and have one of us talk some sense into you!!!

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Submitted by happymostly on Mon, 03/28/2011 - 10:27pm

Congrats!! I am on the very same path as you, except my skid is actually great, but her lying cheating daddy is not Smile I hope you will still come back from time to time and let us know your doing ok!

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Submitted by Need2Breathe on Mon, 03/28/2011 - 10:52pm

Run, fly and be free! I am on the same path and I know from the core of my being that it is going to be so liberating to find MYSELF again. Stay strong and thrive!

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Submitted by Auteur on Tue, 03/29/2011 - 8:12am

GOOD FOR YOU!!! And please feel free to visit this site often to WARN OTHERS about the horrendous path of Stepmotherhood, in particular NCP Stepmotherhood with spineless weenie, blood-is-thicker-than-water Guiltzillas!!

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Submitted by steptwins on Tue, 03/29/2011 - 8:32am

I'm jealous! Free!! That sounds amazing. I just completed the NO THANKS TO SM its their birthday weekend (DH & swins). Every second was all about them. And icing on the cake is DH asked me if I'd like to go in on beach house for week this summer. YUKE! NO! Talk about being put on the spot. I learned my lesson 3 years ago, skids are horrible on vacation. Sleep late, make noise all night, get $50 day spending money, meanwhile I do activities alone between laundry/food shopping/spending money. No DH I don't want to go to the beach w/you and skids. And the expectation is I pay 50% of everything. No No No No No No No

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Submitted by foxxystep on Tue, 03/29/2011 - 9:17am

I actually read this, and as a recent member, I am not too familiar with many of the memebers. So i went to your blogs and read, and read, and read.... and boy does your SS6 sound exactly like my FSS7 (well not future for much longer either)...

I commend you for taking the brave bold leap of faith that is really going to be in your best interest in teh long run. you now can look forward to painting a whole different future. You've spared yourself the bitterness in the furture and anger at the way your life turned out.

all the best with whatever it is that you decide to do in the future.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Sun, 04/03/2011 - 10:00am

Congratulations dear, glad things are going your way for a change - no need to check out of here though, you know you are always welcome as a 'resident expert'-!!!!! HUGS

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Submitted by CaptainD on Sun, 04/03/2011 - 1:50pm

too bad there's not a way to be free without getting a divorce, huh? to give up those stupid kids you gotta give up their father, as well.

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Submitted by StepMadre on Mon, 04/04/2011 - 1:14am

Thank you all so, so much! Your touching and caring messages made me cry! You ladies (and gents!) are wonderful and I will always be grateful and feel blessed to have known all of you and sharing our similar struggles with marriage and step-parenting. I fully support all of you and I wish you all the best in the world!!! Love, StepMadre Smile