I won't go into the long story of the past 6 years or hellishness my family has gone through, you can always read my previous posts if you're curious.
I just wanted some feedback from any other SM's here that have dealt with PAS. I somehow managed to stick it out for almost 6 years and finally one day DH realized that precious SD was in fact the cause of drama in our house. He told her that she could no longer come to our house unless she was ready to be respectful to me and not call me names. This was January 8 and she hasn't been back since. She did say that she would never come back if those were the new rules.

OK, so I figure this is probably pretty common, the SD is PAS'd, the SM gets sick of the hatefulness and nasty comments and tells her DH to make it stop. When the DH tries to disipline the SD he's immediately the "bad guy" and has chosen SM over SD. The SD decides to no longer have a realtionship with her dad and blame it on the SM. In fact it is really because of BM's insecurities and jealousy and constantly planting ideas in SD's head and telling her untrue things about her dad and I.

I feel guilty though, I'm sure I'll get over it and I'm very glad that the drama has ended but I would be heartbroken if one of my children decided to never talk to me again. I just don't want DH to end up blaming me. How should I deal with it? Should I try to talk to him about it or just let it go. He doesn't talk about it at all, he doesn't seem depressed or anything, in fact he was always so stressed before SD's visits and it feels like the tension in the house has vanished. It feels like we're ignoring the elephant in the room so to speak and I don't know how to bring it up.