ss15 wants to move in
so ss15 - the one that's been ignoring me since Christmas and just told me that he does it becasue he feels like it - told his father that he wants to move in with us when he's 16....april 7th. i haven't been asked my opinon and i hope to hell that Dh says no. this topic came up this summer and Dh said that moving this late in the game would cause havoc on school and losing friends - ss said that he's commute - oh yea - who is going to pay for your gas because i sure as hell won't! Dh doesn't have that much extra out of his checks- we have separate accounts because of the skids - i WILL NOT support them and Dh can't help but throw money at them (guilty daddy syndrome)
the little shit is up to something - why would you not talk to me and then want to move in with us??/ are you trying to break up my marriage you little fkr?!?! not going to happen.
there is no benefit to the kid moving in with us. we do not have the finances to support another vehicle driving back and forth 30 minutes every day - we dont need to feed another mouth - his clohtes should be easy since he wears the same thing every day.
DH would have to go back to court to get cs taken away from bm and she will shit bricks if she has to pay US!!!! that's too much money to allow the skid to live with us and still pay that bitch.
i know i'm getting excited about it early and i've become a nightly prayer that no skid shall live FT with us!!!
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Wow Dakotamom you and I are
Wow Dakotamom you and I are in the same positions except that mine is a FSD not a SS. My BFs daughter has told people she doesn't like me, she continues to ignore me even after 3 years, she has no respect for me, yet EVERY week since my BF has returned from Afghanistan she will send him a text "DAD when can I move in?!?!?!" This has been since June last year and he told me if it happened I would get use to it....HAHAHA And like you I keep all finances separate and don't pay ANYTHING for my BFs kids, not out of cruelty but just because it is not my responsibility. I know you are married but even with my ex husband I kept everything separate, it is the way to go! Anyway, I told my BF that I would never come between his kids but if he really considered her moving in then I would be out. He also said the things your DH said about being too late to move them because of age, friends, school, etc.. My BFs daughter is 17 and a Junior in high school. We also live 2 hours away from them.
You are going to have to be
You are going to have to be clear to DH that you do not want this. Otherwise, he is going to get this kid's hopes up. Also, shame on you for having the more comfortable house for him to want to be at. You are not being mean enough.
Try harder....
wrong to let him get his
wrong to let him get his hopes up and slam them to the ground....hmmmmm i thought it'd be payback for the times i thought the skids would turn out normal and pooooof - there goes that dream!
this year has been relaxed on
this year has been relaxed on my part because my grandma was having failing health so i was gone a lot on the weekends when they were there so i'm sure the kid thinks i'll be gone all the time - well guess what.....i won't - i want to take that snotty nosed little brat aside and tell him "you are not welcome here - i dont mind your silent treatment - i rather enjoy it so keep it up. as far as moving in here - you will not have the relaxed resort you currently have - that means you'll be here all the time so you can have chores and responsibilities and bathing is required here - daily!!! you WILL NOT eat all the food and you can buy your own snacks. you WILL have a job because that's how this house survives - you are not here to relax. Now get your ass back to your mothers!!!!"
OMG I wish I got the silent
OMG I wish I got the silent treatment! That would be HEAVEN! Instead I have a SS14 who can't communicate one freaking thought. I swear, everything he says ends up with me replying "WHAT are you TALKING about???" But apparently he doesn't know that either... If I have to live with his dumb ass he could at least stay out from under mine!
DM, that is my biggest fear
DM, that is my biggest fear either or both ass gnats deciding they want to live at MY house.... ever so often they put that scare in me and i freak out about the possibility. but then i calm myself, usually by going ape shit on st and get the support from my fellow speeps that i couldn't live with out.
then i start making the plan and list all the reasons it's NOT possible unless of course bm dies ~ i probably pray for health & safety more than her own mother ~. then i start dropping the hints to the skids why it would NEVER happen. finally, i make life at starfish's more sucky than usual...but i know in the back of my head that this issue is going to come up again and it scares the hell out of me...
good luck and i hope the little fucker doesn't get what he wants.
It's all about health. What
It's all about health. What will be the condition of your health if the child moves in? How healthy a marriage will yours be?
This child is evil. HE shows no respect. He wants to slither into your life and make it miserable. You want to spend your money on fun activities, not marriage couselors, child couselors, therapy, medications...etc. There goes the fun money paying for "Help me" issues. Why? WHy throw away good money on a disprectful kid?
Hope your husband tells him, "Sorry, I need my home happy. With the way you treat my wife, it's neither happy nor healthy. I can't allow you to move in with the feelings you have for her. Work on your attitude and we'll talk about it for NEXT YEAR".
Would you allow a disease to come into your home and infect you and your husband? No, you'd stop it in it's tracks. This kid is a disease, waiting to consume you both.
I feel for ya, I really do.
DWI ~ freakin' LOVE
DWI ~ freakin' LOVE IT!!!
"Would you allow a disease to come into your home and infect you and your husband? No, you'd stop it in it's tracks. This kid is a disease, waiting to consume you both."
you guys are the best - i
you guys are the best - i just hope i can put your advise into dh friendly terms....i dont think he'd like me calling his sperm creation a disease although that's what he(it) is.