Oh Sephiria how long will it take for you to get citizenship? Is there any way your dh can try to get some public help, atleast temporarily to help out with bills? Im sorry you are going through this I hope something good happens for you guys soon.

I'm so sorry...been there...it takes a toll on our emotional stability...a big hug...

So my husband was never married to his son's BM, she got preg after one month of casual botty calls and he's been paying for not wearing a condom ever since. She has two kids both different dad's and same story casual botty calls then preg. Anyway, my husband did the child support calculation on line and had been paying her every month (not established legal paternity at that point), he also pays the boys insurance and about 2 years ago the boy started going to a private school she choose and wanted my husband to pay ALL of the $500.00 mo tuition. He did but told her he would have to reduce the $650.00 mo support to $400.00 to afford it--she agreed to this then last August took him to court to establish paternity and collect back support!! UNBELIEVABLE!! Turns out since BM never works just lives off her kids support money--that my husband has to pay 81% of all parenting costs (we have the boy 50%) and she got him for $4,200.00 back support. DES just froze our bank account and took all but $250.00 of our money without notice---the court arrangements through the clearing house were that we could pay an additional $100.00 per mo for the back support--but DES states they always have the option to put a lein on assets for back support---- HAS ANYONE ELSE GONE THROUGH THIS HELL? It's bad enough that the court system treats step parents like second class citizens and does not allow us to attend hearings or mediation sessions but GEEZ!!! When will this nightmare stop??

I resent the kid, I hate the financial drain it has put on our mariage, GRRRRRR :O

I have been in property management for over 6 years and I do know, like druzilla said above, that there could be certain churches in your area that could be willing to help you in this situation. I also know that the Salvation Army has helped out a lot of people with their rent. We used to have Salvation Army payments for the full amount of rent + the late charge every month for at least two of our tenants. I also don't know if you have looked into maybe budget billing for your utilities. I know a lot of utility companies offer this as a way to keep your utility bills down at the same amt every month as opposed astronomical bills in the winter/summer.

I hope this helps out and I hope things get better for you.