This has been bugging me since Christmas Day. DH and I havn't spoken to SD 19 for two years. She was very upset when we announced our engagment, wrote a letter to DH, to go on with his life if she weren't in it. So, on Christmas day, we were about to pick up SS14 and SS13, who we see EOW...BM sent text to DH "what about Mary/SD19, she is your kid too?" So to avoid argument with BM ...DH told her we were going over to MIL's house which is closer to BM than to our house. BM says she would jump them off at MIL's house. So, we go out crab a couple gifts for SD19. So, we arrive to MIL's house and sure enough there is SD19. I thought she wouldn't show up! And she talked to DH has if nothing had ever happend. Not the letter she wrote, or all the nasty things she said about me on FACEBOOK. I personally did not speak to her. She didn't go out of her way to speak to me either. But I would catch her "checking me out". She wasn't there that long maybe an hour. But on her way out the door. She smiled and said goodbye to me. I pretented not to hear her. So of course on our way home DH says why was I so cold. :jawdrop: I have to be nice because she wanted to be phony to collect a christmas present?? Now We havn't heard from SD19 since Christmas Day. MIL is having retirement party on the 22nd of this month, I saw guest list and SD19 did RSVP for the party. What should I do if she tries to speak to me again? And I really hate that DH spoke with her on Christmas like nothing!! I don't know what to think or how to take this?? Does she want to be cordial with me now? Or is it just to see what she can get from us? She sees how we do things for SS14 and SS13. But why do I have to just suck it all up and forget about all the name calling and disrespect, just because she wants to "play nice" now?? I hate for someone to be phony with me. I keep playing it over in my head, how it's going to be at this party. I can just see that phony smile on her face...ughhhhh!!!