The story behind the split is simple...the BM snuck behind FHs back and ran up credit cards to over 100k. They tried 3x after to get back together for SS but it just didn't work. When they divorced my FH got stuck with all of her debt (and even after she left she signed his name on a credit card and ran that up and he ended up paying for that too). We have SS every other week. Our time with him runs Friday eve to Friday morn. So, technically, we have him over half the time (we take him whenever she wants to do something). She is remarried. Her hubby has a daughter and then they have a son together and my SS. SS comes here and complains about SF. He goes home and complains about me! So both sides are getting the complaints. I know he is distraught about there breakup. They have not been together for 5 years now though. I don't think that it helps that his mother hates me and says that he doesnt have to listen to me. We always tell him that he has to listen to his SF because hes the adult and SS is the child. He is a mamas boy. He really is. The other day he actually called his mom and asked her what he needed to do to get around for school. Why would a 10yr old need to do that? My 6 and 7 yr old dont even ask...they just do! He really does act younger than my 2. I have tried to talk to his mother but she ignores me. Doesnt want to talk to me. Yet she butts in to everything thats going on in this house. Everytime SS gets mad he picks up the phone and calls mommy. Mommy come get me! And sometimes (if she doesnt have plans) she will! I told my FH not to get his son when he calls in that situation because that is time to spend with his mother and if they are having a problem we are not to interfere. SS will just have to work it out. IDK. I'm just ready to completely give up all together. I feel as if I get nowhere with FH or BM or SS. I feel like FH is on SS side (although he has been seeing my side when child acts up) and not even listening to mine. The problem is when this kid is treating me like crap his dads at work. When his dad gets home he treats me like Im the best SM in the world! So his dad doesnt see the rotten side. What am I suppose to do? Should we try for counseling for the whole family (even though we cant afford it)?

There is NO medical reason for his pooping his pants and I am all for him washing his own damn underwear out. You see...his mother just throw them away. She allows this to happen. I address the situation to correct it. I do fully believe he is a depressed child. But I would like to also have a say in the way that he grows up. I may not be his BP or care for this kids behavior or acts but I do care how he is molded while under my supervision. I had a talk with FH and (we will see if this happens) he would like to see if SS can just come visit on the weekends until after the baby is born ( I have subchorionic hemorrhage so I really need to be IN BED which my children understand). He can not change his shedule. He just started a new job farther away so that we could make more money (unknowing that I'd be taken off work and he'd be the sole bread winner). I think this is probably best since he really does seem happier with his mother. And if he is coming weekends then he will get to spend time with his father since he doesn't work on the weekends. I feel bad that it comes down to this but it was FHs decision (when SS is here I get so frustrated and I start bleeding again) based on the effects its having on the family as a whole.

Thanks That is one of the problems here. My kids are made to pick up their things around the house, straighten their rooms, and take care of their clean and dirty laundry. SS is made to do the same. The pathetic part? My BS6 does a better job than my BD7 AND SS10! If you walked in to their rooms right now you'd see BS6- bed straightened, clothes and toys put away, night clothes outta place on the floor BD7- unmade bed, a few toys scattered, clothes taken care of, jams on the bed SS10- unmade bed, toys and games scattered all over, dvd on the floor getting scratched up, clothes to take care of. So what do you think? He doesn't do that at his mothers (according to the liar herself).

OMG! Way too funny! I can't wait til this kid gets a gf (if he ever does). I dont really think he'd have one for long anyway!

LMFAO! No kidding! This kid has to be pushed into the shower (although getting better) after a hot sweaty summer day! His rooms filthy, he has a nasty attitude, he acts almost like a post menopausal female most of the time (I'm more of a tomboy, so is my daughter, I guess thats why its doubly annoying)! This kid I think may turn out to be a bit of a rainbow kid (nothing wrong with that btw, but his dad would be ticked!) He plays tons of sports but cries when he gets knocked down then his MOMMA runs out and says "Oh. Are you ok? Poor blah blah blah." I literally wanna go barf in her face. My kids fall? I tell them to get their a$$ up! What doesnt kill ya makes ya stronger!