I left him alone for two hours
My Saturday started at 7am. I had to drive into town to get my daughter. That was the only thing that ran smoothly.
I get home at 8:30 and have to be ready for skids football game by 10.
9 year old SD can't get herself ready to go...she wants me to help her. Why a 9 year old can't dress herself is beyond me, when her cheer leading uniform is all laid out for her. I have to get in the shower, so I get DH to take her to BM.
I'm running late now.
I go to the game...alone...without DH and have to deal with BM (who is a snotty bitch)
Come home, after leaving DH to watch the house for 2 hours and my dog is missing and my 90 year old Uncle has fallen and broke his pelvis.
DH is so busy with remodel, he can't stop to help me find the dog or go to the hospital with me. BTW the hospital is 1.5 hours from our house.
After an hour of searching for dog with no avail, DH is making me clean up the demolition he just did on the house. I do it and then go search for the dog again. Uncle is still waiting to go to hospital.
6 hours later, dog finally comes home and I am able to go to the hospital. ALONE!!!
I get home at 9pm, exhausted and looking forward to sleeping in on Sunday morning to rest from such a stressful day.
7:30 am Sunday morning, DH is pulling at me...I beg him, "NO, I need to sleep". He walks out of the room pissed that I don't want sex and goes out into the next room and cranks up the TV.
Today, I can't even be mad. I just have too many people who need, need, need and no one can do anything to help me.
I know I am nailing myself to the cross here, but what would you do?
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If I stop...it doesn't get
If I stop...it doesn't get done. Real simple!
Then it doesn't get done! I
Then it doesn't get done! I say take your girl and spend the whole sat just with her. (she is your only biokid, right?) go see family, watch a movie, go to the park, just be gone ALL DAY! Heck you should even find a family member to let you stay the night! Don't ask him to go, TELL him you're going! The load he puts on you is ridiculous!
Sounds great...except my
Sounds great...except my daughter is 15 and has little interest in hanging with Mom
lol.
"The load he puts on you is ridiculous!" Funny you say that, I have actually come to the conclusion that he is completely helpless!
Ingrid he is not completely
Ingrid he is not completely helpless he in fact is quite crafty and has you thinking he is helpless - leave for a day by yourself - on the weekend - the house will not fall apart and the world will not end - as women we think we have to do it all and then when we can't we get pissed at everyone for expecting us to do it all - first off your uncle should have be driven to the hospital right away not 6 hours later - tell you DH to clean up after his own F_____ self. Your uncle was in pain and should have been attended to right away - if you do not stop doing it all you have no one but yourself to blame.
I used to do everything and then get so furious with everyone around me that I actually had a friend once ask me not to help her after she asked for my help because she told me that I would just resent her and she did not want that - BOY WAS THAT A WAKE UP CALL - I have since learned to say no and do you know what - the world did not stop - I did not lose friends and people actually say I am nice to be around again - so for your own sanity - take off the next Saturday and go do something for yourself - let DH do it all - some weekends I make hubby cook lunch and dinner and clean the house and he works full time and I take care of the house but when I feel that he is underestimating all that I do for the family I let him do it - he then remembers all that I do and appreciates me again.
Yes, thank you. Because he is
Yes, thank you. Because he is in the last stages of Alzheimer's, Uncle is going into a nursing home until he is better. One less thing to worry about.
Ingrid - my 90 year old
Ingrid - my 90 year old foster FIL lives with me full time so I know how it can be to have an older person living with you I am so glad that he will be in a home now - this will take a lot of the burden off of you - I have Grandpa going to Adult Daycare twice a week for 6 hours and it has been a life saver - but even though you love everyone and want to do everything you can't you will get so burnt out that you will have a nervous breakdown - I did in June and it was not pretty - if the caretaker is not well then the whole house is not well and that means mental as well as physical.
When you have this many balls
When you have this many balls in the air...you go into black hawk mode. Swoop down and fix the problems at hand.
Actually, I looked for the dog 3 times.
I'm not mad at DH, only disappointed that he couldn't take care of the house while I was gone.
I guess what I would start by
I guess what I would start by really thinking about the things that matter to me.
At this point, I would do ONLY what is important to me.
There are some things that YOU FEEL you have to do: maybe it's taking care of own daughter ONLY; let SD's father do for his own daughter; maybe you can cope with the demolition mess (DH can't really MAKE you do clean up)- let him clean it up; if the dog isn't yours and you don't really care about (or you're tired of taking care of it) let it come home when it wants or not.
I stopped taking care of my SD16; not that I don't care about her as a young person, but I care about myself and my own children more. I don't want to be tired for my kids b/c I'm taking care of someone else's kid.
Stop making yourself the fall guy. Just STOP!!
It is all important to me.
It is all important to me. Love, love my skids...love, love my dog...love love my home...love, love my Uncle.
A.Deville-This is not an
A.Deville-This is not an option at this time, but thanks for worrying about me.