Sorry for the length.

H is starting to see some aspects of Skid’s personality that aren’t making him so happy.

He has been warning her for months, since she’s not immediately enrolling in college, that CS would be cut off within a month of her graduating from HS. The first sign was the notification regarding health insurance. She called him in a panic and he explained, I’m still carrying you and will until you’re 21. But be prepared for the next letter to be about CS ending. She hemmed and hawed and he said, you better get that job because unless your mom is sending you money, your job will be your only source of income. (BTW super proud of H for standing firm on this matter)

Apparently she did get a job in a grocery store. Good for her and I guess one of her co-workers is quitting which means more hours for her. Yay again.

So in the middle of all of this, I guess GBM (Uberskank’s mother) fell and fractured her pelvis. Poor thing, she’s 80. Skid has been living with her since Uberskank moved to UT. Anyway, Skid called H in a panic because her uncle told her that since she is living there rent free, she’s expected to take care of her GM. She explained she had a job, but her uncle told her GM needs help and in exchange for rent, she can care for her GM. That her job is secondary.

We, of course, believed her version. Like idiots. Mistake #1.

H jumped right into Hero Dad mode, gave her some the phone numbers for elder care in skid state and the emergency numbers so GBM could get the real care she needs. Mistake #2.

He then called Uncle (the one that warned him not to marry Uberskank), and left him a message that Skid called him, he’s helping her out and he gave Skid a bunch of info regarding rehab and elder care to get GBM back into her apartment. Mistake #3.

Uncle called H back, left a grumpy message (of course he did) and asked him to call him back. That H wasn’t getting the full story.

Awesome.

H and Uncle spoke, what really went down is this:

GBM fell and was in the hospital for three days and released. Uncle comes over three times a day (Uncle by the way owns his own biz in town). A friend of GBM’s comes over for several hours each day. Knowing they can’t keep up this arrangement, they have been looking into in home nursing care. Outside of the nursing care, Skid was aware of this arrangement.

When Skid called the info line that H gave her, they advised her to take GBM back to the hospital so she can be put in rehab. I guess Skid dropped her off at the hospital and went to work. Uncle was called in and furious, because the hospital was under the impression an 18 year old girl was completely responsible for this 80 year old woman with a fractured pelvis. He called the Medicare hotline and received some information, spoke to GBM’s doctors and decided rehab care in the interim would work best. Then she would be released to go home, with in home nursing care. Sticking with the plan of Uncle and Friend as fill in help.

What Uncle really asked from Skid was to keep the apartment clean, do some laundry, dishes and cook some meals to help out. That’s it. What really made Uncle mad is after she dumped her at the hospital, she never went back to check on her grandmother. Even better, she called Uberskank as well for advice and Uberskank told her the family is toxic and to move out. The sooner the better.

H apologized to Uncle. He told Uncle he should have called him immediately afterwards instead of taking Skid at her word. Uncle reminded H that he has two daughters, over 18, and so he knows that H was trying to do what was right for Skid and GBM.

H told Uncle he’ll be having a come to Jesus phone call with Skid. He asked Uncle what he needed from Skid. Uncle said, I need to know if she is going to be there to help out (cleaning, laundry, etc.) in lieu of paying rent. If not, then Skid needs to move out so they can get someone in there to help GBM during her recovery. And probably afterwards too.

H is furious with Skid. He said this is the same kind of shit Uberskank used to pull with him. He started to pass it off as “this is how an 18 year old acts”. But I said, you know what? No. It’s time to stop passing off her behavior as age appropriate. She’s been doing this shit for years. Are you still going to be saying this when she’s 25? 30? 40? Oh……it’s okay…that’s just how a 30 year old acts. Or are you going to start holding her accountable for her actions and behavior??

H was quiet and then said…you’re right. You’re right. It’s time for Skid to learn to be responsible and to stop lying. He told me he should have had a clue, because she started to hedge when he said he was calling Uncle in the first place. He also commented that not all of her manipulations are money related.

The big thing here…….a few months ago this would have resulted in a huge ass fight between us. Yes he did go all Hero Dad again, but for once I wasn’t the one that called him out. I didn’t have to get involved and best of all……for once Hero Dad didn’t cost us thousands of dollars rescuing his kid.

Maybe we’re both learning something??