I opened my own account

DH and I have a joint bank account, and for some reason when I was over there today I felt the need to open my own account. DH and I were talking last night about how I'm so unhappy all the time when SD7 is home, so I thought he'd bring up changing her visitation again to one week with us and one week with BM. He had mentioned this once before but didn't talk to BM about it. I thought after me saying I'm never happy anymore DH might take action. I don't know, I guess I'm just preparing myself in case a separation is in our future.

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I have my own checking and

I have my own checking and savings accounts...that way NONE of MY paycheck goes to child support and alimony. Sorry if that sounds terrible but it keeps me from resenting SD and keeps me from killing TheFrizz. He writes those checks from his own account and I NEVER have to see them so it's easier to pretend he's not paying them a insane amount of money every month.

I am fully behind women having their own bank accounts...it's nice to share and be jointly tied together but that sense of freedom that comes from having your own money is just so nice.

An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind. ~Mahatma Gandhi

I also have my own account.

I also have my own account. I don't think its out of the norm these days. We used to have a joint account together but it works out better for us to have our own accounts. If you are thinking that you are preparing for separation, maybe you should tell DH exactly how you feel and what you want. Good luck with everything, I went through that too.

How did you handle it?

I pay the bills, tell DH

I pay the bills, tell DH what he owes for the bills and he deposits it in my account.

we also have our own

we also have our own checking accounts and then there is a checking that is together. our checks go into our own account and we move our "half" of the basic bills into our joint account

I don't think there is

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a seperate account, just in case. It isn't that you are dooming the relationship, but you are just thinking realisitically.
But, at the risk of getting flamed here, I have to ask. Can you imagine how you would feel if you and DH broke up, and after your divorce was said and done you meet someone new, and that new person tells you that they don't like your kid? How would you feel?
I know it isn't easy. But right now you have put your DH in the middle here. You want him to change visitation because you don't "like" his daughter? Have you asked how he feels about this?

Our accounts are completely

Our accounts are completely separate, on the advice of our lawyer. They will be separate until he is no longer paying child support, at least. I imagine that at some point we will merge the accounts, but for now, I don't feel safe enough from BM's B.S.

"No matter how cynical I get, it's never enough." - Lily Tomlin

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