I thought it was outrageous and didn't know what to say. I mean, who is she anyways? If you are married to DH then I thought she didn't really have much of a say? And if there is no evidence against you that you've laid a hand on SS then I don't think she has a pot to piss in. I'm in Canada, so things might be different here... but I would go tell her to f herself. Seriously. If my BM did that, I don't think I'd do anything... HOWEVER it sounds like your situation is rather serious. I would almost turn the tables on her and tell her you're going to sue her for slander or something. Saying someone is harming a child when it's not true is a rather serious accusation, and I'm not sure she should get away with it.

Sorry honey, but I didn't know how to reply!

I thought that your DH's approach was a good one - meaning if BM wants to insist that you cannot care for the child, then he objects to her brother, or parents, or whatever, and she has to deal with it. I thought that eventually, if he stuck to it, she would get sick of that little game.

But other than going to an attorney, I have no idea how to fight false allegations and protect yourself. I think in your case, a Guardian Ad Litem for the child may, unfortunately, be the only way to go.

Best wishes to you...

see she can say anything she wants and take it to anybody she wants and there could be an investigation done but there is no proof especially since SS is like no she doesn't.

Back about 5 years ago BM was on one of her fits and she was trying to get at H and she told H that she would say I molested SS. Well needless to say I flipped. We called our Attorney immediatley and he advised us since she only saying this to document it so if something does come of it you have it noted that it was said and you contacted me asap.

If you have an attorney I would let them know about it and what they think you should do. they will probably adivse you to document it as well because until she acutally tries to do something about it it is nothing more than her running her mouth.

Makes you mad as hell though. why would you put your kid through those lines of quesitoning just to get at someone...why because she is selfish!

I think making BM live with the consequences of her "Charm can't care for the child" thing is the best idea. She gets Right of First Refusal -- fine, then let her figure out child care for those times. It will get old for her REALLY soon, I'm sure. Our best successes with the BM have been when we called her bluff and made her live with the consequences of her attempts to screw us. Our best year has been this last one, and it's because she has backed herself into a corner and now has very little power because her little schemes backfired on her.

BB

- You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. (2Bloved)

First right of refusal may not pertain to you... but it does seem to pertain to DH. And that's what we are trying to get across. And unfortunately you may have to fight fire with fire.

Meaning, if Dudebug is with you and she shows up with a deputy, then I guess DH would have to show up with a Deputy when Dudebug is left with someone else too. It could get UGLY but it might be the only way to get her to back off. I'm hoping the letter alone will scare her into some wits.

I thought it was crazy and didn't have any advice. What are you supposed to do, video tape yourself 24/7. I am sorry. You got a BM that's even worse than mine

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"