But I am a normal well adjusted person who had moved in my life. My guess is that if she freaked out about other things (like your marriage) she will freak out about this too.

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"

Yeah, I was fine when my ex hubby and his then wife (they're divorced now) had a baby. I thought it was cool for my daughter to be a big sister! But then again, I was as Abigail said...normal, well adjusted and had moved on with my life.

I think that's one of those "won't know until it happens" things.....

My DH's ex didn't freak out in front of us, but we can tell it's really bothering her. Apparently some BM's don't like it when their ex moves on without them...even if they were the ones to leave.

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on." ~Robert Frost

Heres a list of the things she did.

1. Cried her eyes out everyday for a month.

2. Told the SD's they should hate BD.

3. Begged DH to make sure it wasn't a boy.........Thank the Lord it wasn't!

4. Begged DH that if it was a boy to not name him Dh's middle name because thats what she would have named a boy if she would have had one with him. Of course, this is after she found out from SD's that's the name I had picked out for a boy.

5. Said that when SD found out and jumped up and down and cried tears of happiness she wasn't really happy, she was crying because she was sad.

6. Convinced SD's that this baby was more important than them and DH will love our baby more than them.

7. Tried to suck us dry, more dry, than usual every time she found out we were buying something for our baby.

8. Had a massive fit when we moved SD's stuff out of the room that was to be the babys room. Sd is with us eow and on Wednesdays, the baby is with us 24-7....ummmmmm....who did you think was going to get a bedroom? We didn't have enough to go around........thank goodness that is no longer a prob. They all have their own room!

9. Was extremley upset that we did not allow her to be there when BD was born.

10. Threw a massive fit that DH wouldn't leave the hospital the day our daughter was delivered via EMERGANCY C section to come over there and fix her car. Our daughter was 4 lbs, 8 weeks preemie.....he wasn't going anywhere.

11. Still makes stupid comments to DH like "Well, if it were "insert BD's name here" you'd do it for her" when she is asking something ridiculous, like for my DH to come over there at 1am to make SD take a shower, or brush her teeth.

12. Had, it's now gone, a picture of my BD on her desk at work for a year and a half.

13. Tells anyone that will listen how my daugthers existance hurts her so much.

14. One day cussing about BD, the next day trying to send a cutle little outfit she's picked up for her to my house. ~which are now all given to goodwill~

15. Tells SD's that they don't have to listen to me regarding BD because she is their sister and they have every right to go get her out of bed when ever they want......even at midnight.......because they are her SISTERS!

16. Theres more but my fingers hurt.

~all you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust...and sometimes a machine gun~

I typically have bad cramps during a period, but these cramps were beyond painful. I couldn't sit up straight, they hurt so bad.

I ended up going to the emergency room late at night because the bleeding and the cramping got worse... well, DH was going to take me (though he doesn't have a license... I know, bad me!) but we had Blabb, so DH called BM to come pick her Blabb up. BM was furious!

"SHE BETTER NOT BE PREGNANT!!!!!" is what BM said when she got to the house to pick her daughter up. "I SWEAR TO GOD I WILL TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER AWAY IF THAT WOMAN IS PREGNANT!!!!"

Later that night I found out that I had a miscarriage.

Let's just say that BM was excited to hear the news.

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." Dr. Seuss

I am almost afraid to even think about having a child with my DH. BM acts a straight ass right now - what would she do then.

I would hate to even think about it.

and I think its going to be ok??? But we did have to correct the kids. BM told them that if I had a child it would be their "step" sibling.. WTFE!!! She has another child with another man... we just asked them if that made him their step brother.. of course not!! DUH

I am so sorry for all of you. SS said he didn't want us to have a child. We weren't planning on having a child but after that, I felt like doing it just to piss him off. I know it would make BM furious.

It makes me angry. How dare them think they have any say whatsoever in our marriage. These BM's are sick.

"Evil Stepmothers aren't born, it comes with the territory"

made her way up to the hospital when i had our bd preemie. she showed up, unannounced right as they were showing me my daughter for the first time before taking her to a larger hospital with a nicu. no one knew she was coming up, not even my bf. she just showed up. i was too weak to say anything to her, but bf kept asking her why she was there and she said to him "we are friends jay and this is our daughter's half sister. why cant i experience this with you?" if i hadnt had an emergency c section,i would have killed the bitch.

6 months before i got preggers with bd, i had a miscarriage. bm cries to bf about how sad she was THEY could never have any mre after sd.

she flipped and turned up the PAS. She also then started obsessing about my child. She wanted pics, etc. No way did she get any, I was scared of her. To my knowledge, she doesn't have any now either. BM is schizophrenic and is capable of most anyhing, so all my boys' schools know that she is NEVER to take my kiddos. It's been kinda freaky having her obsessed with my boys!

BM was depressed for months after we got married. A while ago when BM was being especially nasty I decided to put the bug in SS's head I might be pregnant. Well as soon as SS got back to BM's house she quizzed SS about everything that was going on in our house like she allways does. SS told BM DH and I were trying to have a baby. Well that put her into a frenzy she called my sister-in-law and hinted around. When my sister-in-law did not bite BM came right out and asked her if she knew this to be true. Well my sister-in-law told BM she knew nothing about this and BM acted all relieved. If i was thinking i should have told my sister-in-law to play along that would have sent BM right into the loony bin for sure.

I honestly thought BM would flip a lid when she found out we were pregnant. In fact I made DH tell her before she heard it from anyone else so that she wouldn't be so mad. and boy was I surprised. She didn't say anythign bad, just ok congrats and thanks for telling me yourself. She did say to DH that she thought he didn't want anymore kids, of course I stopped him because I knew he was going to say "yea just not with you". She was asking all kinds of things and told us that SS was under the impression that he would have to share a room with the new baby. She also told us to keep her informed, let her know what we are having and such. I am waiting for her to ask us if she can visit the baby when we have it in which case that will be a big NO. It is almost like she forgot how mean she has been to me. Good luck and like another poster said you don't know until you do it.

Mine got pregnant right away after telling her.. and then kept it a big secret. she is due in Dec. She has 3 children that she and her dh cant afford, my dh's two, and her 1 w/the new dh.. they will all end up being 5 yrs apart.. dh's two are 10, new dh's is 5 and now the new child coming..

I guess I wasnt allowed to have the baby, she had to go and have one younger. Little does she know.. we arent done!!! and I only have 1.. she will have 4!! I dont think there is anyway she could afford a 5th.. then again, I didnt think they could afford the 4th either.

BM tried subtly to do that by telling 5and 7 year old Skids things like that is a dumb name (that we had named baby). Luckly it didn't work and the SDs love their little brother but I agree that it my have irked her that now I had given DH a child (and also his only son) and that he has difiniatly moved on from her. Wouldn't surprise me if she got pregnant to spite us though and like 'frustrated' she can't afford to but that wont stop her.

I don't think I will have to worry about BM getting mad about DH and I having a baby when the time comes. Which we are going to start in 2 or 3 months (we want a summer baby). But I might not say anything to the kids until I have gone through the first 3 months knowing things are ok. It sounds bad but they might be the last to know. But as I think about it, I also want them involved every step of the way. I just don't want BM to have the chance to upset me during my pregnancy. But I may also tell the kids once we do tell them that I do not want BM to know and if we do decide to tell BM I want to tell her just to see the look on her face for myself.

My only issue will be trying to contain myself if she should say any rude comments about the baby whether it be born or unborn.

My SDs Bm didn't care when I had either of our sons. She said "Congrats!" and seemed to be sincerly happy for us and SD.

Later while I was pregnant with BS3 months she did tell SD that we favored BS2 but quickly changed her tone when she found out she was pregnant too. Then she was back pedaling with SD telling her that no one could favor one child over the other.

DH had a vasectomy almost 5yrs ago and plans on getting it reversed next year. However, we won’t be trying for a few more years.

I can already tell that BM knows we plan on having babies together b/c she’s already filling SD6’s head with nonsense. I was braiding SD’s hair and out of nowhere she says, “SM, I don’t want you to have any babies with daddy. You guys already have enough kids and besides my daddy can’t have anymore babies.” Maybe every 6yr old girl says crap like this, but it’s not likely. After BM found out how old I was she said, “Just go get your reversal and start your new little family with you young little GF”. She’s insanely jealous. SS12 even said (on more than 1 occasion) “I won’t be coming down” or “I’m not gonna be around”. That hurt me, but DH thinks it will be different when it actually happens. He did say that when I am preggers he doesn’t want BM around me in fear that she’ll actually attack me. Now she’s pretty civil for the most part (she drops nasty comments though) and I really can’t see her attacking me, but DH said that she would.

I’ve even heard my IL’s say to the skids, “SM and Daddy and 5 kids between them. They don’t NEED anymore.” Uh… we don’t NEED children, we want children.

I never knew that I needed to seek the approval of his 3 kids and his parents to have babies with him. I really can care less what any of them think; all that matters is that DH and I are on the same page. Good luck to all you ladies out there trying!

"I aint no Carol Brady"

She freaked so much she stopped contacting her kids for months!!! She couldn't stand to hear about it or see me getting bigger. Now that the baby is born she won't EVEN LOOK AT HER! SHe pretends she doesn't exist. If the girls talk about their sister it's "can we change the subject please".

Of course she is in the clink so none of us have to see her or put up with her right now. She probably JUST found out that I'm pregnant again. LOL! WHEEEW, I bet she had a heart attack when she found out. We told her Mother when we were dealing with teh love letters from prison issue. Hubby told GM he has moved WAAAAY on. He is remarried with a child and another on the way. All GM had to say was "Another one....all ready?"

BM is going to hang herself in her cell wiht her underwear when she finds out.

If they are still hung up on the Ex it's going to bother them and honestly....I think at least 87% of women who have children with a man stay hung up ant their worst nightmare is the father of their children having children with someone else. That's just MHO thou.
Having a baby does not make you a mother.

DH & I had only been together a few months when we got pregnant. We knew we wanted to be together & to have kids though. Everyone was surprised when we broke the news. When BM found out she asked DH if he was going to marry me & he said yes. Suddenly she started wearing a ring on her left finger which she claimed was a promise ring & her kids started calling her boyfriend dad. A few months later she was pregnant. He was gone before she was 6 months pregnant. She always accuses DH of loving BS more. I think she hates that she can't get money beyond CS out of DH now, but he's got another family to support now. ~Bookgirl~