SD19 contacted us at the last minute yesterday to see if she could come stay with us for the night. Usually that means she was fighting w/ her BM. DH told her yes but we have to talk about some things.

When DH got home from work he and I had a quick talk about what needed to be said. To be honest, we almost fought. I have far more harsh feelings about his manipulative, selfish, grown-ass daughter. His response to her crap is always "I've seen worse kids...she's not on drugs or pregnant!" Way to raise the bar of expectations! (sarcasm)

She arrived and DH began. He addressed the two main issues that had us both mad. I spent most of the begining still running around cleaning and getting ready to make dinner. I didn't have much to add. Lazygirl got weepy, didn't say much...oh, but when she did!!! She called her father childish! I interjected at that point and told her that no matter how old she is, it is never acceptable to call her father childish. DH moved on to the topic of her laziness and procrastination, lack of follow-through, bad grades. He even discussed how she shows the people who subsidize her life such disrespect.

Lazygirl played a few semantics games, made a few excuses, and then when all else was failing - - she played the victim! Poor her...the child of divorce....poor her...her big bad father ruined her life by marrying his second wife (The Weasel).

I was actually quite proud of DH. He was more firm and thorough than I feared he would me. I interjected a few times to clarify when I thought she might misunderstand, to ask her to give her thoughts so she couldn't leave saying that we didn't give her a chance to speak, and to let her know my thoughts on the issues.

She decided not to stay the night. She left in tears.