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Oh how I wanted to have another baby.

wishing upon a star's picture

About 4/5 yrs. ago I wanted to have another baby, but hubby want not ready. We had been dating for about 5year ( we were not married yet ) when I started bring up the conversation about have a baby together. At the time my daughter was 12 yrs old and my skids were 7 and 5. Hubby would always say thing like babies are to expensive , what about college, I rather we travel etc..... hubby knew that this was very important to me. I made it clear that I wanted to have a baby before the age of 34 and want to conceive in July or August. I’ve told him that he is mean for not giving me a child and that he has broken my heart. Well that was then...
I am 35 years old and I am not ready to have a baby. No I’m not pregnant! But hubby is saying that this is our year. Don’t get me wrong if I were to get pregnant I would be very happy. I just don’t feel like I did back then. My BD is 16 yrs old. She has 1 more year of high school and then off to college. I love the idea that one day soon hubby and I will be able to travel with out any worries.
My biggest worry is :
Does hubby really want a baby? Or is he just doing this for me?
He also told me he would love to adopt BD and that he would wait for her to turn 18. I was very happy to hear this... what do you think? Am I being silly ...

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LMR120's picture

No I think that if you no longer feel the need to have a child then that is your right ... just like it was your DHs right to tell you that he wasnt ready for one. You shouldnt have been mad at him for that as he was just being honest and he should not be mad at you for not wanting to have one. You spent 16 years raising your daughter soon you will have the chance to focus on you and I think that will be great. Enjoy!

stepmom2one's picture

just like he said no before and you did not have a baby now it is time for you to say no and not have a baby.